Q: How can I be both confident and vulnerable, especially after a break-up – such as a divorce?
A: Most of us after a nasty divorce don’t feel safe to let go, and surrender, and be out of control because we have just gone through such a painful experience and we put up these walls to protect ourselves. This wall helps us do things we can control, like our job. If we want to be more in control, we become more confident in our job. We tend to go for things where we can predict the outcome and we know the outcome will not be pain. You have to decide if you are over spending time with your confidence because it doesn’t allow space for him to support you, serve you, contribute to you, adore you – be with you.
To see my full response, check out the video on pg. 23 in this month’s Divorce 411, right HERE. The video is viewable by placing your cursor over the arrow/play bar then click on the link that appears like 2 paper clips in blue on the lower left.
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