It’s not my place to tell women they are wrong? Why? Because I’m not them.
This is not a perfect corollary, and it’s hard for me to put out there, but I suspect that a lot of these guys who see nothing wrong with cat-calling women, if they walked down the street in a predominantly gay neighborhood and guys were calling out to them, or even if they weren’t, they would be looking around them, a little bit nervous and uncomfortable, wondering if one of those guys was going to follow them or put their hands on them or attack them, assault them, rape them. Or if a guy did call out to them, I can imagine they’d probably be ready to jump on him. You can see this pretty immediately if you ask what he’d be worried about at a gay bar or what he would do if some guy hollered at him. Guess what, guys. They just had a little bit of a taste of what many women feel like going out on the street. Is this you? Or someone you know? You’re concerned about what could happen to you, especially if you’re being cat-called or followed. We know in reality that it’s very highly unlikely that a guy whistling or eyeing you or calling at you is going to attack or rape you, but you’re still going to be worried about going into a gay bar, or going into a not-public space in that bar. And that doesn’t change the fact that you’re concerned about walking down the street, because you just don’t know. Yes, this is simplified, and does not apply to a lot of guys. But it’s probably the closest scenario to be imagined. The statistics say you’re going to be fine…but you walk a little faster and don’t make eye contact, just in case.
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