honestly I mean I was gonna delete the
app I mean usually like people going
Grindr not to find nothing but a hooker
I ended up finding my baby my love I was
like I’m done talking to dude I was all
religious at the time I was like you
know doing you pastor type thing and
then I just download the grinder one day
I was like you know what I’m gonna do it
again I met him again like I said I
opened the door and I saw him I was like
oh man I’m not Adam backslidden leg slit
throat slit his sleep I’m sliding all
the way back for this do like and that’s
just how it happened hey what’s up my
name is Zed I’m all the way from Africa
Tunisia I grew up in London Paris but
now I’m out here in elected I’m great
all the way from the reason I’m born and
raised we’ve been together for about a
year and a half now and we met on Grindr
usually we’d be lining people would be
joking saying no we met on Christian
mingle so hit me up on Grindr whatever
and then I was like was good was good I
was like is this doing real he looked a
little Cathy and it’s like you were
catfished I like him too fine you know
you know he looked too good I thought he
was fake or whatever so I was like let’s
just five and see where it goes and but
once we made it was just a whole
different story
walk down the road yob was sweating
bullets so I got to the house I was like
boom in my head it was like some slow
music playing I was like you cannot take
a show he didn’t he was like yeah like
yeah come on because I was sweating so I
said you know like I’m not about to
shower by myself like Brooke get in this
hour we all understand like it was like
a shower from heaven got piss down I’d
be like neon lights oh yeah and you
never left since
thanks to Grande I got my baby where
yeah
I find this do like they really complete
me on every level like I could not find
a dude at first I feel like it happens
when you don’t like it look for it like
yes follows on you just let it happen
let it blow let’s keep it a band I
always you know stay true to yourself
statue in people Sunday don’t change I
told him I love him first he was scared
but they ain’t gonna back door says nah
I like a tough guy but I was reading out
through there I’m like boy sit up cuz I
noticed it’s difficult to be a
relationship with me I’m the counselor
Hannah from Louisiana so we’re kind of
like straight to the point and we didn’t
really grow grow up expressing ourselves
black men and being when I met him he
told me how you know it’s okay to be
vulnerable in a relationship but they
don’t teach us to love and generous
acceptance like just yeah but we’re all
the humans we got feelings what I didn’t
have the most in life was love be
affixing it to her tone like in public I
did not to tears I think honestly
friendship is very important in a
relationship I feel like he’s my best
friend he’s my lover he’s my boyfriend
he’s my everything if the boyfriend
pissed me off
i’ma just like be mad at the waiver for
a little bit but he’s still gonna be my
bro and then I’m gonna just switch up
and like you’re gonna be the husband I
didn’t tonight it teaches you that we’re
both Union and fridge y’all go through
so much in a relationship we like to try
to act like everything’s good in food
it’s all love but you have your times
that he challenged you to be someone
else like you got to go deeper like you
got to have the friendship that’s how
you stay together too by just keeping it
tight like give me the real give me what
you’re feeling down give me when you’re
feeling good I want to know all of that
about you all of that you ain’t got a
mans don’t put up the insecurities don’t
put up the walls like just keep it a
bandwidth
[Music]
it’s hard to be in a relationship in the
gay community like it is but once it’s
worth when you know it’s worth it you
don’t mind doing that work and the
relationship dealing with two tops you
don’t say y’all gotta just know how to
bend just humble yourself but know it’s
a partner guy that’s a party got a dick
too
he want to use it to oh yeah you gotta
humble yourself a little bit I look at
him he look at me I’m like I ain’t dying
doing it I’m like bitch so we just like
just in the beach just lay down
boom boom over with we’re both very
dominant in our relationship too I mean
you got a give and take you gotta know
when to fall back when to be dominant I
love to cook and I love to make sure the
house is clean I like a clean house I
love your personality I love how loving
you are and affection you I even know
like some you don’t seem like you are
but you’re very affectionate whatever
you put your mind to you become
excellent at it you don’t play about me
and I love it about you I like I love
the smell you don’t play about me
[Music]
I mean you and bumping into you and
lighting you and loving you you make me
feel like tomorrow is promise like we
can get through anything together before
you I was lost like I was just living in
a fog I didn’t know what was going on
life is right now so I’m ready to just
progress and forward every step with you
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