Fervor over the issue of guns in America long ago reached a fever pitch. And yet, firearm assaults continue at a staggering rate. As a former teacher, tragedies like that at Parkland in 2018, the Newtown horror in 2012, and the seemingly countless other school gun downs, particularly shake me.
After each sad incident, zero/sum arguments made by both sides over the Second Amendment predictably ensue. This strikes me too.
I live in New York City and frequently hear strong anti-gun sentiment from people who have never been around, much less, fired a gun. I personally support much stronger gun control. There’s no conceivable reason for a person to possess an AR-15.
And yet, when I hear the back and forth arguments over gun ownership and I think about guns myself, it brings me back to a childhood in Texas. And I have to admit—it’s not so simple.
Growing up, shooting a gun seemed like a natural rite of passage. In suburban Houston—where I spent most of my childhood—all the boys, and none of the girls, had BB guns. I got mine for Christmas before I turned seven. Our BB guns were a source of play.
In our lily-white neighborhood, unlike urban areas of the city besieged by gun violence and police brutality, we had the casual privilege of feeling emboldened, and never fearful, of guns.
We shot empty cans off the top of old boxes, listening for the ping of striking metal. I aimed at pecans in my grandpa’s front yard tree in New Orleans. My brother and I had BB gun fights in the house when my parents were gone. The hits stung, but the guns weren’t strong enough to break skin. We boys on the block even had guns wars in the nearby woods. We would set a few logical rules—like no shooting at the head—and if you got hit, you were out.
The year I was fifteen, I went hunting for the first time with my dad. That’s how the boys I knew spent weekends during the Fall hunting season. I was at what was called “the camp” somewhere in West Texas, and I killed a deer on the first day there. It was exhilarating.
The men at the camp called a first animal kill first blood. In what looked like a hangar, the deer I had shot was hung on a hook. Someone wiped the deer’s still-warm blood on my face and took a picture. The photo of me, looking hilariously bewildered, was later tacked to a board full of photos just like it. I went hunting a few times after that. After high school, I never went again.
It wasn’t until several years after I stopped hunting that I first thought seriously about guns. In my early twenties, I went with my dad to a gun range for the first time. It was Texas in the late 90s. I had tagged along one Sunday out of equal amounts curiosity and boredom.
The gun range that afternoon was crowded with men when we arrived. Some had children with them, all of them boys. They shot rifles at bulls-eye targets tacked to bales of hay in the distance. Some of the shooters sat, balanced against a wooden backdrop, and some looked through binoculars between shots to judge aim.
The gunfire was continuous and seemed to come from every direction. Even with ear protection on—which looked like oversized headphones, in camouflage green—the noise was intense.
Along with the rifle, my dad had brought a new pistol. The hunting rifle no longer interested me, but I had never shot a handgun myself. I was intrigued, so I decided to try it. Next to the rifle range was a separate handgun range. No one was there when a teenage guide in a reflective orange vest led me over. It was smaller, the targets seemed closer, and you couldn’t sit down to shoot—only stand.
The main difference between it and the rifle range was the targets. They were paper silhouettes of a person’s upper body and head—bull’s-eye on the chest. Before I even started shooting, I realized this felt different than hunting.
Holding a heavy, three-foot rifle is a stark contrast to a weapon that fits in your pocket.
Facing the target, I shot the pistol with one hand, arm extended. I fired one bullet after another. Excitement almost immediately overtook me. It was so easy, and it was so fast. I shudder to remember it now, but I actually imagined myself in an action movie as I shot.
Despite the exchange we also see in America with horrific regularity—between law enforcement and unarmed citizens—we white folks have little reason to picture ourselves on the receiving end.
The bullets were spent in seconds. When I stopped shooting it hit me—what I was actually doing. It was one of those moments when you suddenly feel shockingly naive.
What a handgun lacks in heft it makes up for in power. But the power isn’t in the kickback; there was surprisingly little. The power I felt holding this piece of metal in one hand was a sudden awareness that it was specifically made for shooting people, and that I was shooting not at something, but someone. I may have missed the bulls-eye every time, but it wasn’t for lack of trying to shoot squarely in the chest.
I shot the one round of bullets that afternoon, and I haven’t fired a gun since. Still, when I hear gun enthusiasts—from Texas and elsewhere—boldly proclaim their fundamental right to bear arms without restriction, I get it.
If we expect to have a realistic conversation about guns in America, we would do well to consider not only the ease of acquiring one, nor steep the sole blame for tragedies upon those with mental illness, but also recognize the mindset that sometimes accompanies a gun’s very existence.
When guns are as deeply entrenched in the culture as where I grew up, guns are guns—whether it’s a BB gun, a hunting rifle, or a handgun.
I was an adult before I made a definite distinction between them. I’m far from alone in that experience.
And yet, something that happened when I was in elementary school gave me a glimpse that not everyone shared the same attitude we did towards guns.
A boy had just moved to the neighborhood from England and came to my house one afternoon. As we were pulling a board game out of a bedroom closet, he saw a collection of guns in the back. He was shocked. He immediately said his parents shouldn’t know there were guns in our house or he could never come over again. I remember laughing uncomfortably. But it wasn’t out of ridicule; I was truly confused.
It would be many years, several dead animals, and my turn playing with a pistol before I understood.
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