Something struck me yesterday with quite a deep impact.
It’s easy for me to talk about the fears that many men have around their sexuality, about the sexual problems they have, the impact these have on their emotional state, their relationships and their lives.
It’s easy for me, a man, to talk about how confusing sexuality is for so many men.
How strong the energy and chemicals in their bodies are at times, without much understanding of these processes and how they impact on him.
How few strong, clear, sexual role models there are for men, who are in their masculinity, in their power, in their strength, in their clarity, in their stillness, in their solidity.
How much sexual pressure there is on men to perform, achieve, be skillful, knowledgeable, sensitive, with almost no education of pleasure, of themselves or their partner.
How much fear and judgment there is about their bodies, about their genitals.
How few men have a connection, a relationship with their bodies, with their genitals that includes emotions and the heart.
How little understanding there is of what women want sexually, sensually and emotionally.
How hard it is for men to find a forum for honest, open sharing with acceptance.
How little knowledge there is of sexual energy, of pleasure possibilities, of the different expressions of sexuality and relationship.
How many men are trapped in the perspective that vulnerability is a weakness, and how so few of these problems can be acknowledged and shared.
How many men, with widespread mainstream media support, believe in the porn model of sexuality.
How terrifying it is for a man to acknowledge these issues and be seen and judged as being less of a man.
How many men hide behind bravado and bluster.
How disconnected so many men are emotionally and physically without even being aware of it.
What struck me was that it’s become too easy to talk about the fears around these issues without acknowledging how much fear this in so many men, how difficult it is for them to take a step to heal, grow and learn, what deep internal conflict this creates.
And in this, I acknowledge every man who does, in whatever way he does it, his inner work.
And I celebrate every man who comes to do his work, with me, with every other practitioner.
And it’s vital that create, and keep creating, the spaces, the workshops, the experiences that make this work possible.
It’s one of the most powerful ways we have of changing our world.
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