Healthy Relationships Do Not Require These Sacrifices

Freedom

A healthy relationship is built when two people who have fulfilled and happy lives come together to share a part of themselves. If your relationship costs you your freedom, it is not worth it.

Though it is natural for some changes and adjustments to happen when you enter a serious relationship, it should not mean that you are losing control over making decisions for yourself. You also do not want to lose time you can spend on yourself.

Your relationship is only a part of your life, not your entire life. So, make time to pursue your dreams, meet your friends, improve your mental and physical health, and enjoy your hobbies.

Personal Vision

We all have goals and dreams that we want to be fulfilled. Reality check? The primary purpose of relationships is not to make you happy but to help you grow.

Your relationship must support your vision and should be an add-on to your quest to follow your passions. It is not worth it if your relationship demands you to sacrifice your goals.

Think about our mothers, who had to give up on their dreams to make their marriage work. No matter how great their husbands are, some women never lived a satisfying, purposeful life.

Recognize early on if your partner understands your vision and does not expect you to give that up. If they are not in support of your dreams and vision, your relationship is not worth it.

Your Other Relationships

The fundamental rule of a long-lasting healthy relationship is that it must only be a part of your life and should never become your entire life. If it takes over your entire live, then it may lead you toward an unbalanced and dissatisfied life in the long run. A single relationship cannot fulfill all your needs, so it is advisable to have different options.

Moreover, it is only possible for your partner to have a solution for some of your miseries. Realistically, our partners cannot offer more than emotional support for most troubles we face in life. And who would you go to if your relationship does not pan out well?

Keep your friends around. And if your relationship demands you to sacrifice your friendships or other relationships, it is not worth it!

Beliefs and Value Systems

If you feel you have to change yourself and adjust your identity to be with your partner, then, my dear, you are sacrificing too much, and that relationship is not worth it. Pretending to be someone else destroys your self-esteem in the long run.

Getting used to and adopting some of your partner’s habits is normal. Nothing about that is unhealthy. But losing your individuality for the relationship and not living by your ethos is a sin! It will kill you in the long run. Don’t do it.

It’s critical to maintain your identity. Being secure in your identity is sexier than complying because you think the other person wants it. Ultimately, a healthy relationship should be a positive addition to your life, not something that requires you to give up who you are.

Allow someone to adore you for who you are.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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