Emotions are complex; if uncontrolled, they might make you take decisions that are not always in your best interest. This situation often pans out in our romantic choices, and if we are not well educated on the topic of love, the chances are high that we will end up with someone who is not an ideal partner from a long-term perspective.
I have been in this situation. I was attracted to a guy who was very different from who I am, our beliefs and value systems were worlds apart, but the heart wants what the heart wants. Fortunately, I am well-read on the topic of love, and that helped me realize that even though I feel extremely attracted to this person, he might not make a good partner choice for me. I deliberately chose my reason over my emotions. And honestly, I have no regrets! I am dating a guy whose fundamentals are very similar to mine, and even though I do not feel as attracted to him (yet, only three months) as I did to the other guy, my mind knows that I am making the right choice.
So, the answer is clear: Choose mind over the heart!
Where do you get the courage from?
From having an awareness of the consequences:
Choosing your life partner is one of the most important decision you will ever have to make. And not choosing wisely can lead to a disaster:
- Unhealthy relationships makes you fall sick more often
- Unhealthy relationships can cause you trauma
- Divorce is excruciatingly painful
- Divorce is expensive
- Divorce reduces your market value for future prospects
Once you understand that choosing solely based on attraction can have severe long-term consequences, you get the courage to think rationally and not let your emotions hijack your brain.
I am attaching link to some articles that I have previously written on the topic. Refer them for a deeper understanding on the subject:
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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