Coming Out of the Heterosexual Trance

Why do some LGB people take so long to come out?

February 23, 2018 by Joe Kort, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

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If you are heterosexual and cisgender you have won the lottery in this lifetime.

Our world is designed perfectly for you. You get to hold hands, kiss and say “I love you” openly and outwardly to the other gender without fear of repercussion, violence, looks of disgust or any other negativity.

In this short video, I talk about why LGB people take time to come out of the heterosexual trance.

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About Joe Kort, Ph.D.

Joe Kort, Ph.D., LMSW, is a board-certified sexologist and the founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health and runs a private practice in Royal Oak, Michigan. Dr. Kort, a therapist, coach, and author, has been practicing psychotherapy for over 25 years and has spoken internationally on the subject of gay counseling. He specializes in sex therapy, gay affirmative psychotherapy, sexually compulsive behaviors, and IMAGO relationship therapy designed for couples to enhance their relationship through improved communication. Dr. Kort is a blogger for the Huffington Post and Psychology Today on issues of sexuality. He has been a guest on the various television programs on mixed orientation marriages and “sexual addiction”. Dr. Kort is the author of several books, including, Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love, "Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi: A Guide For Women Concerned About Their Men," and his latest, LGBTQ Clients in Therapy: Clinical Issues and Treatment Strategies/a>, published by WW Norton books.

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