Becoming a parent is wild.
One minute you’re figuring out life as a 20-something, and the next, you’re learning how to communicate with a tiny human. But trust me, it all starts with simple routines and consistent communication.
I’m all about making it feel natural and real with my little one.
Babies get it more than you think.
For me, using the same words for the everyday stuff has been a game-changer.
Laila totally gets when I say “burp burp” because she knows it’s time to let out some air, and “poop poop” means it’s diaper time.
I even use “fart fart” when it’s time to let some gas out and she totally understands.
It’s all about creating that predictability so she feels secure, even when she’s too young to talk.
And then there’s “milk-milk.” Every time I ask her if she’s hungry, I say it in a high, playful tone, and she’ll smile, giggle, or sometimes even cry if she’s really hungry.
Since I breastfeed, it’s like our own secret language. But what’s even cooler is how she has her own signs. Sometimes she’ll suck on my lip, grab my nose, or just squeeze me tight when she’s ready for milk.
It’s not just about me teaching her words — it’s me learning her signs, too. We’re vibing together and figuring out each other’s cues.
It’s also about non-verbal stuff. Since day one, I’ve been consistent with my tone and body language… baby can totally pick up on that.
This repetition helps Laila know what to expect, so she feels more in control and safe, even when she’s a newborn.
Now, as she’s getting older, we’re moving into sign language. I love this because it’s a super helpful way for babies to express themselves before they can even talk.
Plus, it gives them confidence to communicate without frustration.
Honestly, one of the best things about all this communication is how chill Laila is when we’re out.
People are always amazed when we’re out in public. Like, I can take her to places like The Gage downtown Chicago, and she’ll just sit in her stroller, happily playing with her toys while I’m over here munching on broccolini and mussels for brunch.
I’ve had so many people comment, “She’s so chill! I could never take my six-month old out like that!”
But that’s the thing when you know your baby’s cues, it’s so much easier to keep them happy and at peace. Laila is so in tune with what’s going on because we’ve established that routine and communication.
By sticking to a routine and focusing on consistent communication, you’re building trust with your baby in ways that go beyond words. It’s like laying the foundation for a connection that will grow with them.
Trust starts with knowing what to expect and feeling secure enough to express your needs no matter how little you are.
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