Recently, a comment was posted in The Good Men Project Writers Group by a male member who observed two men cat-calling a woman at a stoplight. He asked them to stop. They laughed and threatened to run him over.
There was some consensus in the ensuing discussions by both men and women in the group that these men’s bravado was in part because they were not alone – aka “wolf pack” mentality. How can we help men to not be drawn into those situations?
• Should we speak up and risk our own safety?
• if “good men” do nothing in this situation, then what is the actionable solution?
• As a woman, what would you want a male ally to do or not do in this situation?
• How do I talk to my children about this? What do we say to our boys about respect?
• What gives you hope for a better future or for the changes we need to actually happen?
• To our writers in other countries – How do people around the world view this issue?
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I would probably frown at the men and ignore their comments and look to the woman to see how she is doing. If she is fine I would leave it alone while keeping an eye on the men. I am not the patronizing hero type since I believe women can and do take care of themselves. However if she is upset or nervous I would go stand by her and see if that helps, or stand beside her and face the individuals with her. Hopefully that would be enough. If the abuse became intolerable I would try to call police… Read more »
We can start by not making this issue something that’s common with men in general. In my case, if any friends and/or acquaintances acted disrespectfully to women, either they stop OR they can kiss the high hole of you know where. I wouldn’t hang with someone like that. Now let’s add something to this. How about that music that’s listened to these days? How come no one is addressing the music that people are listening to much less giving awards to. And lets not forget how Jay Z performed for a Hillary event … yeah, the same Jay Z that… Read more »
If we start supporting men for making honest, fair and impartial decisions in their personal and professional live instead of praising, condoning, and supporting their bad decisions like polluting the earth, cheating the government of revenue, depriving people of good paying jobs, etc., then we would not be having problems for the last 36 years.