A guy wonders if he can be a “good man” and still request that his girlfriend keep herself a bit more groomed.
Dear Sexes: Is there any possible way to be a good man and ask your new girlfriend to think about shaving (or at least trimming) her pussy? And this would not be for my own visual/ physical pleasure, it would be with the belief that she would like it better, too (at least during sex), if she were to only try it. That it would allow me to pleasure her better, her to feel me better, and us to connect better. I say this not only from my experience, but from the words of countless women I know who now shave.
She Said: Not everyone agrees that shaving/trimming actually makes sex better… But most people would be willing to try it. And I’d definitely suggest starting with trimming, and then move on to shaving bare only if she feels comfortable with it.
I think the best way to approach this would be to present to her that she is fantastic, and erotic, and amazing exactly how she is, but that you think trimming down her pubic hair would be really sexy. Tell her how sexy her body is, that you want to be able to see it better and touch it better.
We recently covered this exact same subject – but in the reverse! You definitely have to go read what we suggested to the girlfriend who was wondering how to get her boyfriend to trim it up… But the main advice I gave her works here, too:
Go buy the waterproof razor/trimmer and trim yourself, first, while in the shower with her. Then offer to trim her up… But do NOT be pushy about this! Be sexy and back off the moment she shows any reticence.
And here’s the silly commercial for that waterproof trimmer again… Just because it makes me laugh every time!
He Said: The answer is yes. It IS possible to be a good man, AND ask your girlfriend to shave/trim her pubic hair. However, there’s a few things to consider to maximize your chance of success. For starters, I wouldn’t begin with the word pussy, when making such a request (aren’t we really talking about pubic hair here?). Call me a prude, but pussy isn’t the most universally comforting word you could use when approaching this sensitive subject. And, as this is a new relationship, you don’t want to turn her off from the start – sometimes it’s not what you say, but how you choose to say it.
Also, since you don’t have a vagina, don’t assume that the “countless” women you know who love being shaved, account for all women. You might love it bare, and your female friends may too, but that doesn’t guarantee your current girlfriend will. As She Said mentioned, the best approach here is a flattering (without being too pushy) approach. The main focus is to get your girlfriend to want to try shaving her pubic hair. It’s always good to try new things, and it’s exciting to try different adventures with your partner. Propose your idea as a way to make new memories/experiences together, or even something as simple as an attempt at better sex. Who doesn’t like to have better sex?
And remember, whatever you ask your girlfriend to do with her body, you should be open to doing with yours as well. Keep trim Brother, keep trim! When you’re done watching the video that She Said suggested, go here for a tutorial.
Knowledge is power, and power (in the right hands) is sexy!