There’s something about asking someone to spend the rest of their life as your lover and your partner that leaves the most confident person weak in the knees.
As an engagement ring designer I am constantly exposed to beautiful love stories. It’s these tales that inspire my custom creations. Clients come to me, not just for a beautiful engagement ring, but for a daily reminder of what sparked a life-long romance.
I find my job fascinating in that I often become a part-time therapist. I spend hours on the phone with my clients and half the time we aren’t talking jewelry. Oh we do talk about jewelry, but it’s in the context of what love means. Maybe he wants to incorporate stars into the design because of one special night when they watched a star tumble and flare its way out of the sky. Maybe she’s set on a ring that represents that day in the desert when a tumble off a camel brought her to her senses. Maybe he wants a ring that symbolizes the not-so-random reconnection with a women he thought he’d lost forever.
The person on the other end of the line is about to ask the most important question of their life. I’m one of the few people keyed into this top secret information. When my clients are at their most vulnerable, I become their biggest cheerleader.
Often my client conversations center on their fear of popping the question. There’s something about asking someone to spend the rest of their life as your lover and your partner that leaves the most confident person weak in the knees.
If you’re preparing to pop that all-important question, here is some useful insight that will help you stay sane in the midst of one of the most powerful moments you’ll ever have.
- She already said yes. Have you survived a trip to Ikea together? How about the Laundromat? Has she patiently sat with your dad for hours as he shows off his rare coin collection? You already are family. This is just a formality.
- Giving is always better than receiving. Close your eyes. Think of one word you want her to feel when you pop the question. Focus on that feeling. There’s truth in that. The rest is self-created fear.
- Who wants to live with regret? As an entrepreneur my life is filled with risks. The biggest risk always provides for the biggest reward. Are you scared? Good! If you aren’t a little bit scared than it probably isn’t worth it, is it?
- What would your life be like without them? Close your eyes again. Try imaging getting through all the turns and tides of life without your partner. Too painful to even contemplate? Well then, you’ve already answered your question haven’t you? In all my years of watching nervous men and women propose, I know it takes two. That deep, powerful, intense passionate love? Yeah, they feel it too. And I’m sure they are just as excited as you are to embark on building a life a together.
The world may be changing a mile a minute, but it’s apparent that true love is here to stay. With all the stories I encounter it helps me realize the world is a peaceful place. Where love rules, romance thrives, and yes, she always says yes.
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