Too often, men are stuck in the same old playbook when trying to win over the woman they’re attracted to.
You know the drill — dinner at a nice restaurant, a bouquet, maybe even a bottle of wine if you’re feeling fancy.
The problem: it’s predictable, it’s formulaic, and it’s boring.
Instead of playing it safe, you have to play it smart.
You’re overlooking a secret weapon: music. Yeah, that thing you probably think of as just background noise is actually a game-changer when it comes to attraction. The right soundtrack can tilt the scales in your favor.
How? Glad you asked.
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The science of (music) seduction
Sometimes we need science to give us the cheat codes to the attraction game — because we can’t figure it all out on our own.
A group of researchers from two Austrian universities decided to dig into a question every man wants to know — does music make men more attractive?
They rounded up 96 participants (both men and women) and put them through a little experiment. First, they played 19th-century piano solos, the kind you’d hear in Wes Anderson films. If you’re curious, here are the music pieces used:
- Frédéric Chopin — Etude Op. 25 №9 (High arousal, pleasant)
- Frédéric Chopin — Prelude in D flat major Op. 28 №15 (“Raindrop”) (Low arousal, pleasant)
- Alkan — Comme le vent Op. 39 №1 (High arousal, less pleasant)
- Robert Schumann — Kinderszenen Op. 15, №7 (“Träumerei”) (Low arousal, pleasant)
After 25 seconds of this auditory foreplay, they showed them pictures of neutral, average-looking male and female faces.
The goal was to see if the music could increase attraction ratings.
What did they find?
The women who listened to high-arousing music rated the men’s faces as about 17% hotter than those who were sitting in dead silence. Interestingly, it wasn’t the music that they liked most that sparked butterflies in their bellies. It was the music that got them most aroused.
Men, on the other hand, weren’t as easily swayed by the tunes.
One explanation is that culturally women might be more conditioned to associate music with romantic and emotional experiences, while men might compartmentalize these experiences differently. Men just don’t connect the dots in the same way.
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Want to up your attraction?
If you’re trying to increase your chances in the world of attraction, don’t underestimate the power of a killer playlist.
Your goal should be getting her heart racing. Music that gets the blood pumping can literally make you look better in her eyes. So, when you’re planning that next date, skip the generic background noise and go for tracks that’ll have her feeling the beat — and maybe even feeling you a little more.
In the game of attraction, don’t just pick crowd-pleaser music, pick the ones that play to your (potential) partner’s emotions.
Unfortunately, men don’t react to music the same way women do. So, ladies, there’s not much to do here.
But it’s not just about music.
Any experience that gets her adrenaline going can work in your favor. Take her to a rollercoaster, a thrilling movie, or anything that’ll get those heart rates up. That rush of excitement? It can transfer over to you, boosting your chances.
It all starts with the right soundtrack — whether it’s music, a rollercoaster ride, or a thrilling movie, anything that gets the adrenaline pumping can set the stage for attraction.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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