How Women Know He Is the One

Women are meant to be loved, not understood — Oscar Wilde

That right there ☝️… is something to hold onto, especially when telling how women know when they have found the one.

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My parents met in the fall of 1993 and married in 1995, just before I was born. After two years of being together and 29 years of marriage. I still get calls to settle disagreements and unnecessary arguments.

On one such occasion, I was forced to ask my dad:

After all these years, don’t you understand this woman?
You did grow up with a sister, so I assume you already know how to avoid these things.

To my surprise, he giggled and replied, ‘ Women are peculiar; what works for one woman would not work for the other.’ Besides! You can not completely understand a woman.

I didn’t fully grasp the extent of what he said until I decided to write the second part of my recent controversial article.

With deep insights, research, and personal experiences from my mum. I’m happy to share these insights on how women know when they have found the one.

How women know he is the one

Women are peculiar creatures with singular characteristics that make their personalities and also make them unique. Hence, deciding that a set of rules is the only basis for how women know they have found their man is an understatement.

But with each of these insights comes a backing truth of its own. So if you feel any of these things, know you’ve found him.

He understands the layers beneath the surface

Show me one man who thoroughly understands women, and I’ll show you a myth come true.

All a man can do is grasp fragments of the enigma of womanhood. As a woman, your hormones are constantly having fierce battles with one another, causing the aftermath of many unbalanced behavioral patterns.

Many men know this fact but are not very conscious of it; hence, once your man shows an interest in understanding these conditions, it is peculiar to all women, know that you’ve found the one.

If he chooses to sway you with gifts and support when you have mood swings and your emotions are out of control… know that he’s the one.
If he offers to take on your burdens and lets you rest when you’re too exhausted to keep up without making you feel guilty… know that he’s the one.

When you find that special person, even none of the layers beneath your womanhood will make him freak out or break out of love with you.

Don’t be fooled.

When it is clear that he is open to working with you and is always ready to understand your behavioral patterns, then know that you’ve found your man.

Consistently swayed by your needs rather than wants

Needs and wants are similar elements; however, they can also be a basis for conflict in relationships that do not work.

Women are romantic creatures with a higher level of romantic intelligence than men. That is why sometimes, he needs to learn precisely when you need a hug or when to spend quality time with you.

In much simpler views, it is a matter of wants and needs. As an emotional creature, you want all romantic gestures as a woman: gifts, surprises, dates, affirmations, compliments, and quality time.

Every man will give this to a woman they love. But only when he genuinely decides to spend forever with you will he be swayed by your needs as against your wants.

So if he is the one for you, he’ll often get swayed by your needs rather than wants.

He will prepare your needs, provide financial support when needed most, and give you security at the peril of his own life.
He will drive you to work every day with a smile, even if it means that he has to drive farther than he should.

Many men would do this, too, but only a man who truly wants to be with you forever will get swayed easily to give you your needs at all costs, sometimes in place of your wants.

More signs include:

He becomes more than your man but more like an elder brother, caring and protective.
He becomes extremely intentional about your success.
He becomes worried sick every time you’re away.

Men are very much involved when in love, but only your special person would go above and beyond to make things right.

Final thoughts

Meeting the one or your special person is dependent on the person’s interest and willingness to do life with you. For women, deciding is more complex as it can mean different things to different women.

For some, it’s the aura they get from him, and for others, it’s the sacrifices he gives. Above all, it is certain that when a woman loves, she loves hard, and she might end up being the special one to her special person.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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