Human beings are all slightly broken. We go through difficult times in our lives from divorce to addiction. Some of us live with chronic mental illnesses. Life brings a variety of challenges, and some of those obstacles leave scars. As resilient as we are, there are times when we need healing.
As a father, you may not have had a positive male role model growing up. Maybe your dad was absent or abusive. These are situations that are emotionally valid, and you deserve the right to heal from that trauma.
People find ways to fix themselves that work for them. And sometimes it’s not easy to find a way to remedy one’s problems. Perhaps you’re at a loss as to how to get better. However, there are ways to make it through the hard times.
How to Be Restored
One of the treatments that can help remedy problems is restoration counseling. In a family dynamic, there can be complicated relationship issues, and there are times when members of the family unit have discord. During these phases of life, things can feel tumultuous. Marriages break up. Maybe a mom or dad has a substance abuse issue, and it takes a toll on the partnership and the relationships with their children. Restoration counseling focuses on healing the broken parts of us.
There is an emphasis on finding the source of what is emotionally fractured and mending it so that the members of the family feel whole again. Sometimes there is a religious connection to this sort of treatment. Other times the people that participate in restoration counseling as clients rely on their own internal moral belief systems to help themselves through the healing process.
There’s Hope
There is no one right way to heal from trauma. We are all entitled to fix ourselves using whatever methods work for us. Though it might not seem this way, human beings can bounce back from profoundly traumatic circumstances. When you feel broken, there may be a part you that feels there’s no hope.
In restoration counseling that is the focus of the treatment. The counselor provides hope to the client(s). We’ve all lost faith in ourselves or the situations we’re in at times. But a competent therapist is there to show us that we don’t have to give up. Most people will admit they have been at low points in their lives. As low as they have been, they have found a way to climb out from the bottom.
Healing Isn’t Easy, But It is Possible
It’s okay feel sad. Being skeptical about making it through hard times is natural. But having a counselor be there cheering you on and reminding you that you’re strong couldn’t hurt. It’s also natural to feel weak when you’re working through your trauma. That’s a regular part of the process, and there’s nothing wrong with you.
Remember that there are parts of us that may never heal. That’s not an easy thing to come to terms with, but it’s true, and that’s okay too. Being honest about what hurts you is essential to the recovery process. You can try your best to heal from the trauma you’ve experienced. However, you don’t have control over how long it takes for that to happen and if you ever will repair that shattered piece of you. But it would be better to try than throw your hands up and be permanently scarred.
Be patient with yourself and understand that healing takes time. You don’t have the timeline on how long it takes you to be “okay” again. The only person you report to is yourself. There’s no one to impress with how fast you heal; It’s not a race, this is your journey. In this moment are you doing the best that you can? If the answer is yes, then you’re winning.
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