If You Really Love Them, Forgive Them for Cheating

Disclaimer: This is only for people who are TOO MUCH in love with their partner, even after they cheated and just can’t let them go. For the rest, please find someone better.

What is the first advice you’d give your friend if they told you their partner cheated on them?

Leave them! You deserve better. Right?

And for most cases, this is the best advice. Personally, if I ever get cheated on, I am walking out the door no matter how much it hurts.

I feel I am emotionally strong enough to walk out at any given point.

But recently, something happened that made me realize not everyone is built that way.

Let Me Give You A Little Backstory

I was talking to a friend who is going through a breakup.

He broke up over 2 months ago but he was still so depressed.

The happy, talkative guy I once knew is long gone. Not only that, his career is taking a hit too. He has a really important exam coming up which he has been preparing for more than a year and today he told me he might not even sit for it.

He even asked me if he should give her a call because apparently “his self respect doesn’t matter if she’s not with him”

I was shocked. Even during the worst breakup of my life, I never felt this shattered.

And that’s when I realized that some people struggle with heartbreak a lot more than others.

So if this sounds like you, if you take breakups too hard, I think you should forgive them for cheating.

What Will Happen If You Forgive Them For Cheating?

1. The Relationship Will Work Out & Be Stronger Than Ever

A long-term relationship goes through a lot of hurdles.

Your partner, no matter how they love you, will hurt you sooner or later.

And if you want long-lasting love, you’ll have to learn to forgive.

So if you think that this “cheating” is also one of the hurdles and the rest of your relationship is actually worth fighting for, they go ahead.

Once again, I’d like to clarify that I would never recommend getting back with a cheating ex.

But hey, you know your relationship better than anyone else on the internet, so if you think the good things about your partner outshines the little flaws, go for it.

Work through it and if your partner also truly cares for you they might try to make it up to you and your relationship will be better than ever.

2. You Will Finally Realize Your Worth & Move On For Good

This is more like something I would do.

Sometimes, even if you are hurting, you are not ready to let go yet because you are stuck making “What if” scenarios in your mind.

In a situation like this, people can often end up with life-long regrets wondering what if they had given them a second chance.

Regrets like this can destroy you and any future relationship you might have.

This is when I recommend that you give them a second chance.

Instead of wondering “what if” 5 years from now, do it right now and figure out what would have happened if you gave them a second chance.

This will a great opportunity for you. In the light of their infidelity, the flaws that you have ignored for so long will pop up.

You will realize that you deserve so much better.

And you’ll also realize you can’t be happy with someone who chose another person over you.

Once these realizations hit, the love that had been blinding you up until now would be washed away by your endless tears and it’ll be much easier for you to move on.

This is the advice that I commonly give my friends who are too deep in a breakup.

No one can rush you through the process.

No one can make you feel better.

No one can make you move on.

You need to feel all the pain you are feeling right now.

But one day, you’ll be tired of living like this.

You’ll be tired of being sad and miserable all the time.

One day you’ll wake up in the morning and want a better life.

And that’s the day you will truly move on.