We hear it all the time. True love is about getting through problems together.
If something bothers you about the person, we’re told you should discuss it and search for a compromise.
But there are some red flags that simply mean your relationship is doomed. And one particularly common problem where men should walk away immediately.
I’m writing about this problem because a lot of men try to stay and fix it, but that usually just makes things worse…
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This Phrase Means Your Relationship Is Lacking The One Thing It Needs
My dating articles often mention masculinity and femininity.
That’s because relationships are effortlessly blissful when they’re sexually polarised.
Men are happier in their masculine role, while women are delighted to relax into their femininity.
But there’s one common hurdle which stops this from happening.
When a woman doesn’t respect her man.
Without his woman’s respect, he’s not the leader of his relationship. And his woman won’t be able to embrace her femininity if she doesn’t trust him to lead.
A lack of respect depolarises the relationship. This causes conflict, tension and frustration on both sides.
And that’s why a man needs to walk away whenever a woman says she doesn’t respect him.
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A Woman Can’t Love You If She Doesn’t Respect You
Some women will stick it out with a man they don’t respect.
But they’ll rarely shower this guy with the love, affection and praise that men adore.
They’ll often be rude, combative or selfish.
And that’s because deep down they resent this guy.
They wanted a strong masculine leader and they ended up with a chump.
You may love your woman unconditionally. But men are only loved for what they provide. And somewhere along the road, this woman decided you can’t provide the masculine presence she needs.
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How Women Communicate Their Lack Of Respect
If a woman looks into your eyes and says “I don’t respect you at all”, your relationship is doomed beyond question.
But few women are that bold.
Often, their feelings will come out in moments of frustration. Perhaps they blurt out “This is why no-one respects you” after you let her down or go back on your word.
They might apologize after this Freudian slip, but you better believe the truth has been revealed. Women don’t say such things without meaning it.
If they’re frequently engaging in the following behaviours, this can also be interpreted as a sign of disrespect.
- Mocking your decisions.
- Ignoring your boundaries.
- Disobeying your instructions.
- Nagging.
- Mentioning how other boyfriends can do certain things.
It might be possible to save your relationship if you call out these behaviors as soon as they happen.
But if she tells you she doesn’t respect you, the ship has sailed.
It’s almost impossible to recover from that.
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What Happens If You Try And Stay
“Honey, I can change! I will do better,” you tell her. And she agrees to give you another chance.
But now you’re stuck in a relationship where you’re walking on eggshells. Everything you do is for her approval or at least to not be nagged again.
What kind of leader does that make you?
Before you know it, you begin to lose your sense of identity. This woman will chip away at your self-confidence and that can lead to resentment on your part.
Meanwhile, you can expect her to continue undermining you. Maybe in public now, as well as in private. After all, her respect for you isn’t going to magically appear overnight.
There’s no quick fix for this problem. Typically, the relationship will become more and more toxic until one of you ends it.
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Be A Man And Walk Away
Walking away is the only solution in this situation.
In fact, when you show you have the guts to do this, something ironic happens.
She’ll actually respect you MORE than if you had stayed and tried to fix things.
You’re proving that you won’t tolerate being disrespected in your relationship. You’re showing you’re not that much of a pushover. This is evidence of SELF-RESPECT, even if she doesn’t value you.
In some situations, this might be enough for her to beg for another chance. If you take her back, you better be prepared to lay down the law the next time she shows any signs of disrespect. Otherwise, you’ll be returning to a relationship that serves neither of you.
Either way, you should use this as an opportunity to review your own behavior. What did you do to lose this woman’s respect in the first place? What can you do in the future to ensure you’re seen as the masculine leader that a woman can rely on?
Learn from your mistakes or you’ll end up in the same situation again.
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My articles teach young men how to escape their comfort zones, improve their mental health and make better dating decisions. Follow me on Medium for more useful advice.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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