As a dating coach, it’s my mission to keep you away from toxic people, to keep you safe and sane as you navigate the often confusing world of dating, especially after 40. Controlling people, which my colleague Dr. Rhoberta Shaler calls Hijackals™, put on a good show to win your heart, and it’s easy to fall under their intoxicating spell.
Notice that the word ‘intoxicating’ contains the root word ‘toxic’? I just realized that as I was typing. Hmmm. That should tell you a lot about who NOT to date, right?
And it’s not only romantic partners who are potentially toxic. Whether it’s our backpedalling toxic presidential candidate, an emotionally abusive relative or friend, OR someone you’re dating who’s treating you poorly, it’s important to keep your distance from toxic people, especially those who love to tell you it’s not THEM it’s YOU…
Improve Your Dating Radar and Identify Toxic People Early On
In the video below, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler and I describe the behaviors of the people you should avoid dating at all costs.
Some of the highlights include:
How you can recognize toxic people early on so you don’t get hurt.
What are the consistent traits of controlling or toxic people?
How you can avoid being ‘Hijackal™ bait’, a brilliant term Rhoberta coined.
And what you can do so you don’t fall prey to toxic people again!
Please pay attention to the valuable tips we share in the video, so you can walk away from toxic people and walk towards the healthy loving people who are available for a relationship.
Have you ever dated toxic people? If so, how did you improve your dating radar? Please share in the comments below.
This article originally appeared in the Last First Date blog.