If you have a hard time drawing the line with people because you think it’s selfish you need to read this.
Do you ever find yourself in a place of chaos and drama with people and you don’t know what happened? Do you ever think, “I give them an inch and they take a mile? “ Many men and women, loose themselves, and allow others to take over.
When you first begin setting healthy boundaries, people might not respect, appreciate, or honor those boundaries. Creating boundaries is not only an act of love for you, but for the other person as well.
Let me explain.
When you don’t create healthy boundaries, and draw a line in the sand of what you will or will not accept from others, people will tend to walk all over you, which creates drama, chaos and dysfunction.
Creating healthy Boundaries and being consistent and staying true to them provides you with:
Love for Others
Dysfunction in families, relationships, and in the workplace, are common, because the fact is that people don’t know the truth about personal boundaries. It is a common mistake to believe that everyone else does things the same way you do, loves in the same way, and moves through life in the same way.
Opening up a conversation to create healthy boundaries can be difficult because we start to think things like, “What if I get push back?”
Yes, you will definitely get push back – at first.
People who haven’t established boundaries in the past will get lots of resistance from those who are used to them being a bit of a doormat. What if? What if you continued to be consistent in the boundaries that you set? What if, after a few attempts, the people who have most often crossed those boundaries actually started to respond in a positive way? And what if, they actually started setting healthy boundaries for themselves too?
You don’t need to be aggressive. It is actually the opposite. Creating boundaries can be a loving act towards the other person because they then know the facts. They know that this is the line, and it is not to be crossed. And for some, it may be a lesson that they need to learn as well. How are their boundaries showing up? Do they need to work on their own?
Setting healthy boundaries is about love. Mankind needs more love. This is just another way to show it.
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