Many guys pay too much attention to body language – if she’s holding her arms this way… Many guys are looking for signs from her body language, but they aren’t leading with their own bodies.
You have to lead with your body. For instance, let’s say you’re out on a date with a woman and you’re talking. If you lean back in your chair, she’s going to lean back into hers – usually people mimic each other’s body languages.
So how do you know that she’s not just mimicking you – how do you know if she is actually interested?
You want to be the leader in the body language game. You want to be the guy that gets her to do what you are doing.
What I’ll sometimes do on a date is mix it up. I’ll lean back in my chair, and then when she says something particularly interesting, I’ll lean forward. I’ll get her to follow me. If she’s interested in me, she’ll also lean forward toward me.
Another thing that I will do is put my hands on the table as I’m leaning forward. I’ll then watch to see if she puts her hands up there too. Sometimes she’ll move her hands closer to my hands so that literally the center of the table is the dividing line between our almost touching fingers.
If she leans forward and her hands are almost touching mine, then I will move back and pull away. Why? It has to do with that teasing aspect. Life is all about teasing.
So then I’ll lean back just like this, and I’ll see where she’s at. If she leans back too, then I know that she’s following my lead and mimicking me. I’m leading and she’s following – that’s what you want!
Maybe five or six minutes later, I’ll do the same thing and lean forward towards her. This time I will put my hands over the dividing line and I’ll see how close she’ll move her hands to mine.
She might put her hands over the dividing line as well, onto my side of the table. This means that we’ve broken each other’s personal space boundaries.
These are some of the little clues that you can read into when it comes down to body language. You want to play with it a little bit.
Don’t worry if she folds her arms. If she folds her arms, she might just be cold – it doesn’t necessarily mean anything bad.
Do you see the difference? It’s all about playing; leading and following, leading and following.
Now that we covered some thoughts on how to know if she is attracted to you.
How about the one way never to act after a night of drinking to turn her off every time!!
Enjoy Labor Day!!
This post was previously published on www.davidwygant.com and is republished here with permission from the author.
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