He put her first. Now he’s blamed for dominating the agenda. Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert says, something’s just not adding up…
Question: Your Good Men Project on ‘Losing Yourself in your Marriage’ was interesting, and if my ex is to be fully believed, exactly fits her situation. I, on the other hand, am still living in the town she chose, in the house she decided we needed and covering the debts we accumulated in our time together. Her educational priorities came first and her choice not to work at least a couple years in that field prevented me from exploring other career prospects. Somehow I was blamed for dominating our agenda, while in actuality, we each were doing what each other believed the other wanted. In my case, I suppose, it was impossible to read her mind, especially since during our breakup she claimed she had hidden herself entirely from day one. How would you respond to such a situation?
Answer: Honestly I think you should be pissed.
Next, here’s your straight coaching. You gave up YOU for Her. Maybe you were raised to think that’s what love would do… and yet if you gave up your dreams… eventually you’ll get resentful.
Take responsibility for your choice with NO judgment of her or you… tough but possible. THEN do the work to discover WHY you gave you up?
Did you not have the confidence to believe you mattered too?
Did your wounded heart seek so much approval that you set this up to put her first to get her love?
Were you so afraid of failure with your dreams that you gave up before you ever tried?
I boldly deliciously fiercely and lovingly DARE YOU to handle this.
Why? Cuz you’re just going to do it again with another HER in a different body unless you change YOU.
How do I know? I did exactly the same with marriage #1 and #2 and believe me, marriage #2 REALLY woke me up to change ME.
Yes, my www.GetHerToSayYes.com complementary report and video series will help. But I have to be straight. It’s not enough. Love, your question to me is at a really low vibration, quite heavy in victim energy, which of course is totally to be expected when you’ve drained your life force energy for many years. Yet until you fill your tank back to full and overflowing… you can’t create much of anything fabulous in your world… like I say, sprinkles on top of an ice cream cone of shit just doesn’t work.
I charge for my value-packed one hour strategy sessions on my site www.AllanaPratt.com and yet if you’re a 10 out of 10 ready to change this, it’s my pleasure to offer you a complementary strategy session by emailing my [email protected] saying Subj: I’ve Given Up Me…for Her. Yet if you’re only thinking about it, and you have more excuses than humble courage… then let’s wait. Read the report and take your time. I am gratefully busy helping men awaken their badass nobility… it’s the most profound privilege to witness. I am so grateful.
Great man, know you matter.
Know you belong on the planet.
Know this world needs your specific gift.
Know there’s a woman out there who LOVES you exactly for you… yet she can’t show up until all of the magnificent YOU does.
Humungous love, Allana