Jackson Bliss, the New Good Men Project’s Relationships, Love and Sex Editor, wants to read your stories
In most meaningful relationships, love is the power plant of the soul. And when love disappears (or if it was never there), most relationships die. Unless both parties are cool (and remain cool) just getting down, great sex won’t save a relationship forever. Emotionally unattached sex is like a sprint: it’s really fun to go that fast, but it’s impossible to keep running at that speed forever. Your mind knows it. Your body knows it. It’s just a matter of time before you stop to catch your breath. Love, on the other hand, is like a half marathon. There’s a lot of training that goes into it. Love takes time, patience, self-honesty, courage and development to become a strong runner, and most of your friends and family will think you’re fucking insane for running in the rain or waking up at five in the morning to go for a jog before the mercury rises. Sometimes, they’re right too. But deep inside, you don’t care when you’re in love.
The reality is that sex alone just doesn’t have the endurance that love does, which is why people who are only together to get laid don’t stay together nearly as long. Sex, even great sex, can’t compensate for a loveless or empty relationship. And while love can be ephemeral too, and while certainly not unique to human beings (animals, for example, display identical acts of love, altruism, companionship and loyalty), love is still the stuff of our basic cosmic divinity. My vision, therefore, for this section is creating a place where love plays a central role in the exploration of human relationships + sex.
As the new Relationships, Love + Sex editor of the Good Men Project, I’m looking for a few talented writers ready to change the world. I want stories and short articles about what it means to be in love, about the changing rules of dating, the evolution of masculinity and its effect on gender roles and relationships in general, the important question of consent (both in early dating, developed relationships and in marriage), the question of sexual identification and the articulation of male desire. I want articles that bravely explore the new issues confronting men in the 21st century, that give readers fresh insights into the redemption, snags and the obstacles of being in love. I’m looking for articles that analyze the pitfalls, mazes and joys of great sex, the changing dynamic of male sexuality and male emotion. Among other things, I’m looking for writers to explore topics such as:
1. The intersection between love and desire, love and sex, and love and self-love.
2. The difference between selfishness, sabotage, and self-loathing (in men, in their partners) from love, compassion and success.
3. The question of a successful relationship (whatever that means) and how that definition has changed over time? How has the definition of a good male lover, a good boyfriend, and a good husband evolved over time? What does that evolution tell us about our zeitgeist and what space does it give men to be more dynamic?
4. The advantages and disadvantages of purely sexual relationships and possible deconstructions of the sex-obsessed male stereotype. Are men asking for more emotionally from their partners than before? What are some reasons for that and what do these changes mean culturally and historically?
5. The evolution of masculinity and how it has changed the way that men approach relationships and sex. How do men negotiate and communicate their sexual, emotional, intellectual and spiritual needs in a relationship? How do they listen to those needs in their partners?
6. The possible ways in which metrosexuality has changed the cultural landscape for men, in terms of giving them more space for self-expression, emotions, appetite for beauty and vulnerability. These are just are a few of the many questions this section will tackle in the coming weeks and months, with love very much at the helm and the heart of this inquiry.
Each new article in this section will be part of a greater dialog about male sexuality, sexual identity, relationships of all kinds and most importantly, love. So, talented and brilliant writers, send me your strongest, most polished writing here!
Let’s get into this . . .
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