With 2018 now in full swing, it’s time to check in and ask yourself if you’ve made your move or if your game is still stuck in 2017. Remember, each day brings a new beginning and it is up to you to take charge of your life right now. And the best way to get started is by having a plan, so here are some Guy’s Guy reminders for sparking up your dating life and igniting the flames of love…right now.
1. Leave the past where it belongs—in the past.
It’s easy to get mopey when your love life has not shined as brightly as you had hoped. And with so much hate in the world and toxic news spewed out by the media, what can you do? Exhale and let it go. You made it this far through the haze, so give yourself a pat on the back and remind yourself of how cool you really are. You are one of a kind and the world needs to find that out…starting today.
2. Live in the now.
Each new day comes with the possibility of change. After all, it only takes one connection between two people to forge the bond of a great couple. Decide what you want in your partner and ask yourself why. Then ask yourself if you are being realistic and fair to your potential partners about who you are and how you can enrich their lives. Don’t ask for the moon if all you have to offer is green cheese.
3. Ditch the list.
That’s right. Take that checklist—you know, the one that starts with him being a six foot three investment banker or her being willing to do that in the bedroom. Yeah, that one. Toss it before it imprisons you. When you’re open, life brings surprises. When we get controlling, we close ourselves off from new and exciting opportunities. Think about it. If you’re encumbered by too many rules, you’ll probably suffocate your natural energy, which is what attracts potential partners. Now, does that make sense?
Nothing generates a better reaction than a smile or laughter. When you lose your sense of humor, things can get dreary pretty quickly. And don’t be overly concerned if every date doesn’t turn out perfectly. Move on, keep your head up, and smile. It only takes one and there are plenty of fish in the sea. Believe me.
5. Get out.
Unless you want to lose your social skills by spending your weekends scrolling through Instagram seeing what other people are up to, get up, get out, and get into something new. Action creates reaction. Decide what turns you on and then sign up for a class, run in the park, shoot photos, take a trip, or just have lunch with a friend. Staying home bingeing Netflix will not help you meet “The One”. They’re already out there doing something and probably looking for someone just like you. Do you really want someone else getting first dibs?
Sure, it’s easier said than done, but you can do it. Remember, no one has a better future than you.
Are you ready for a new beginning or are you resigned to replaying the past?
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