The new age trends tell women that life is a battlefield and you must armor up! Meanwhile, they barely inspire them to be the fearless version of themselves. Women are abundant sources of emotions that splash vibrant colors into our non-physical world. Everything reflected onto them is transformed into several emotions that feed a women’s soul, and shape her understanding of the world.
Women tend to be emotionally driven beings. They may constantly monitor their surroundings to adjust their feelings accordingly. This monitoring works like a radar that notices positive/negative vibes very well.
Women are blessed by this because they can understand the emotional well-being of their surroundings and aspire for its betterment. But one of the downsides of this gift can be not expressing it well. Women tend to feel more than express, so they refuse to ask because it will turn into a duty, rather than a thoughtful act.
Personally, I have fought for a lot of my rights in my feminine life, I’ve won and lost a lot as well. But there’s one thing I wished I kept intact: my feminine delicacy. Fighting all the time made me rough, always shielded, and also drained. On the other hand, suppressing my feelings such as frustration, anger, etc as well as not having time to cultivate my positive feminine aspects would create an emotional storm inside me, ready to wreak havoc.
We need more emotional women than their warrior peers in this world because a warrior woman is a role that she eventually puts off, but an emotional woman is being herself all along. The increasing injustice against women over the past few decades made them save their pure femininity for later, till the battle is won.
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How To Be a Better Emotional Woman?
To achieve this, we need support from men. That’s right, this time we need mutual work. Feminists know, that in fact, there is no equality achieved unless both genders have equally contributed.
We need men that inspire women to feel safe with their emotions. We need a generation that doesn’t identify crying as a female characteristic. Men can facilitate women to understand themselves if they stand by their side rather than in front of them when they’re going through turmoil.
This is not easy, but men need to broaden their perspective of “feeling like a woman”. they tend to internalize things as men tend to externalize (and solve) them. This is why a male resolution is necessary to spark feminine self-esteem. We can tell those women who have/do not have the spark by looking at their fathers, brothers, and relationship history.
Once a woman feels safe, it is time to go through her feelings. to identify yourself will only make you stronger, happier, and safer in life.
Emotions are weapons of a woman, that if not mastered properly, can be used against us in battles of life. But if they’re mastered well, they can turn into a strong armor, they can turn into wisdom, they can enrich your intuition, and make life much easier in a male-driven world.
Let there be emotional women, so the world becomes a better place to live.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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