Let’s Create Peace in the World, One Relationship at a Time

Hi. Phil and Maude here. Let’s make a concerted effort in these dark times to shine a light into every corner we come in contact with.

PHIL: We have a peaceful relationship. We don’t quarrel, attack each other or act passive-aggressively. Magic, huh? We do this through trust, acceptance and choosing to live peacefully. Our values are aligned so we can always find a point of agreement.

If we can do it, so can you; so can almost anybody. There is nothing special about us except that we know what brings this about and we choose to live this way.

Knowing this is possible, we try to interact with everyone peacefully. Whether friends or customer service reps, people respond differently when approached with no hint of hostility and a desire to see and understand the other person. This has to rub off, to calm them down. The vibe spreads.

Just as a panic about drones or fluoride spreads, so can positive attitudes. The news media prefer stories that invoke fear because that gets our attention and inhibits critical thinking. Instead, look for the opposite: look for love, look for connections between people. This is how peace spreads: one relationship at a time.

MAUDE: We would like to look at peace in the world in this post, and what you personally can do to manifest it. Our postings over the last 13+ years have been about spreading peace one relationship at a time. We write about one-on-one relationships and how two people can actually experience peace within those relationships.

We experience this in a number of our connections, most deeply between the two of us. We live harmoniously with humor, kindness, presence and love. Our relating is not about power or dominance. It is about support, acknowledgment, growth, pleasure and gentle communication. We have, as a result, a living experience of peace.

There are many areas of behavior that promote living in peace. You must have the intention toward this kind of relating and the belief that it is possible. Once you practice these forms of acceptance and presence, peace becomes part of the fabric of your interactions. You become ever more peaceful yourself, as much of this kind of interaction involves looking inward and learning about yourself.

As you become more peaceful and able to recognize what that is from your direct experience, your fragrance changes. You will attract and be more attracted to this kind of being and drawn to those who also desire it. You will quite naturally be spreading peace in more and more of the encounters you have.

We are inundated by the Old Media, and often social media, to believe that the world is filled up only with terrible occurrences and evil mean people. Positive reality can go viral too! Together we can change the world and spread peace one relationship at a time.

Reading Corner

Here are some of our posts on various aspects of peaceful relationships.

The Five Fundamentals of Peaceful Relationships “For the last few weeks, we have been writing about subtle aspects of peaceful relationships. It is now time to describe the five principles for creating peaceful relationships, of which these subtle aspects are a part. These are: Knowing and Sharing Your Core Values; Recognizing the Uniqueness of Every Individual; How to View and Interact with Differences; Finding Total Acceptance; A Process for Dealing with Decisions and Disagreements.”

Promoting Peace: What Can You Do to Make a Difference? “This feeling of peace is precisely that: a feeling, and until it is recognized and described and labeled, you won’t be aware of it, you won’t be able to cultivate it and nurture it, you won’t notice its presence or absence. Look at those moments in your life when you can rest without agitation; look at the different feelings that different people bring out in you. There are words for feelings and emotions that don’t exist in English, like hygge or zeitgeist. Some have made their way into English; some haven’t. By naming a feeling, it is that much more tangible, and the same applies to the feeling of peace.”

How to Create Peace in Relationships and Life by Knowing Your Core Values “Your core values are those upon which you base your life, your actions and decisions, even when you are not clearly aware of what they are. This can occur because values are often felt rather than thought, and as a result you may not have actually put them into words for yourself. And yet they are so critical to your life, inner peace, and all your relationships. A knowledge and understanding of what yours are can be a great tool for creating mutual solutions to disagreements and misunderstandings in your relationships, as well as finding a more fulfilling way of applying them to what you do and how you do it in your life.”

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Originally published at https://philandmaude.substack.com.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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