I actually find it pretty darn amazing I can actually say to myself with a straight face I feel content with both myself and my life, at least 75% of time anyways. Life didn’t suddenly become easier either, at least externally, but I decided to make my life easier by practicing the ability to surrender, acknowledging and accepting life as it is, and then releasing any conditioned urges to label arising circumstances or situations as “good” or “bad.”
I can clearly see what’s happening around me for what it is, but without a filter, meaning what I observe in every situation is without attachment or meaning and allow everything to unfold naturally without the illusion of control and minimal resistance.
I’ve come quite a long way from the space of self-hatred I used to reside in, and now daily I make it a point of expressing gratitude to “the powers that be” for the intuitive nudge that led me on this rewarding “SoulTrekking” journey, where I rediscovered self-awareness and embraced a powerful self-revolutionizing transformation that shifted me away from a mindset of depression and fear, and into one of connection and self-love.
When I gaze into my reflection and see the man in the mirror staring back at me, I now can genuinely say I know who I am now authentically, and realize what very little control I have regarding events or anything involving life in general for that matter.
I feel once you release the illusion of “control,” you believe you have, it makes it far easier to quit fighting against life’s flow by surrendering and accepting whatever phase of the journey you might be in and whatever growing pains are associated with it.
The truth is you don’t need to “become” anything, you already are, and you’re better off embracing any growth your soul requires with an open mind and open heart in order to evolve into the best human you can possibly be. Welcome in necessary challenges No one said you have to be fearless, and challenges are going to come whether you want them in your life or not.
A good chunk of people out there assume extraordinary growth is only achieved by simultaneously overcoming hardship and struggle, and in the past I believed too.
One way I began to shift this belief was by healthily reminding myself that even individuals held in high regard as largely successful in our society all have found themselves involved in incredibly challenging situations at some point and these situations were precisely what catapulted them into positive life altering scenarios.
Successful people recognize that painful circumstances are sometimes required as pivotal events to mold them into the icons and leaders they are recognized as today.
Oftentimes we’re conditioned to believe we must change and rid ourselves of painful emotions, and that struggle of any kind is completely unnecessary, serving no real purpose in life…but what’s resisted, always intensifies and persists, coming back harder and stronger.
The pain we feel or the struggle we believe we’re involved in isn’t the problem, it’s our resistance to the experience, and by being resistant, we’re prolonging the challenging circumstances.
If nothing else, I’ve learned to trust life and where it’s going, and whenever I feel like I’m struggling now, I choose to trust the process.
We forget that in choosing to accept whatever is happening and by relaxing into the feelings experienced, the struggle we believe we are in begins to ease up, eventually stop, and then miraculously transform our life for the better.
So next time you feel like you’re struggling, pause and take a moment to recognize that what you feel is a sure-fire sign you’ve entered into a new phase of growth, and when allowed to flow without interference, you’ll gain the insight, lessons and experiences you need for an expansive soul transformation. Caterpillar to butterfly time baby!
The soul consistently craves ever evolving heightening consciousness and self-awareness. In knowing this, I learned to reprogram my response to new challenges away from a sense of dread into feeling an odd sense of excitement, intuitively knowing when I push through to the other side it’ll just be another amazing milestone of progress on the journey.
I’d be concerned if you’ve never tasted struggle in some way if I were you, because that’s a pretty solid indication you haven’t significantly evolved, expanded or grown much either. My opinion is that just isn’t really living and more like slowly dying.
Life is a path, its destination the journey, and what you are experiencing now is the ride.
“For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must completely come undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out and everything changes. To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.”— Cynthia Occelli