Recently, I’m finding myself reflecting a lot on relationships.
What does connecting truly mean?
When it comes to love, many of us grew up used to romantic movies with grand gestures that would passionately sweep us away.
I didn’t have many connections. And yet each of them has been really dear to me.
It wasn’t any big moment that marked my memories. It was the little moments that touched my heart.
In one relationship, I remember how even after years, we would have an endearing, childish smile with antecipation on our faces whenever we saw each other after a long day of work.
In another relationship, I remember how we used to spend hours having heart-felt conversations and soul-naked intimacy, sharing our love and reverence for the sacredness of life.
And then there’s another relationship, where we’d laugh and banter as we take our time cooking together in our forgotten little place.
We would act like kids, lost in the little wonders found in the simplest moments. Small caresses, a smile in between, and light-hearted jokes.
Two souls with our journeys in life temporarily intersected; with each other, we’d find such peace and comfort in between embraces.
The most intimate conversations are not really those of intense philosophizations, but rather those of soul-bared vulnerability in which we slowly trust our innermost little pieces to be witnessed by the other.
Falling in love is to witness the sparks of your unique soul as you casually sing without a care in a cozy morning.
Falling in love is to realize from within that your endearing uniqueness is irreplaceable.
Falling in love is to know you, and to feel at home with you.
I fell in love, not because of any grandiose moments worth of movies. I fell in love with you, as we were ourselves with each other, and slowly connecting genuinely. Through each joke, each smile, each silliness. Through each dear little gesture of care and consideration, through each dear little touch and caressing, through each dear little mundane moment together, I fell in love with simply you.
Even if our connection as lovers ends, love remains. After all, how can we share such an endearing bond and many little endearing heartfelt moments, just to go our separate lives as if we were never more than strangers?
How can we spend so many intimately lazy mornings under each other’s arms, and see each other as no more than just another soul on earth?
In the end, love remains. It becomes something more.
Transcending any roles or labels, it becomes an endearing care and affection that will always linger.
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Mónica Valverde is a daydreamer navigating the experience of human life. She’s in love with Spirituality, Inner Work and Relationships.
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