The evening of December 7, 2017, our lives changed. Forever. As I sat across the table from the most beautiful, kind, funny, heartfelt, thoughtful, caring woman I’ve ever met in this lifetime, I knew this time, it was different. This was the last first date we’d ever go on. On December 8, 2018, I asked her to marry me, and she said yes!
My life before that evening consisted of always looking for her, everywhere I went. I looked in London, Singapore, New York City, San Francisco, Seattle, Colorado, Aruba, at concerts, at work, at coffee shops, at friends’ parties, at Whole Foods, at the dog park, at the airport, out to a movie, at festivals and everywhere I went. My eyes were always on the lookout, for my one true love. I spent the year before we met questioning my beliefs, wants, needs, desires, and life goals. Little did I know, questioning myself through all of those topics was crucial to preparing for what was to come, seemingly out of nowhere. I’d been looking so hard, for so long, I was exhausted and had resolved to be single for as long as life required this time, until I found her. Settling was no longer an option.
Trips were planned, business was in development, projects were lined up, activities were planned and my calendar allowed for little time to think about being single. My mental energy was focusing on work, travel, fun, and self-development. When we met, most of this was rapidly reprioritized, as stepping into being a parent and present in our instantly close relationship was our top priority, without a question.
She’d spent the last several years preparing for us to meet, in a different way than I had been. I found myself through travel, tumultuous relationships that fit me about as good as a pair of high heels, and she’d spent the last several years being a mom and finding her way in a new place. I was traveling the world, seeking, looking, searching. She was right here, creating a home, raising our son, in a place I’d passed a hundred times on my way to get on a plane to get the hell out of here. We now watch airplanes from our front yard. Life’s funny that way.
What is it in your life that you are so deeply seeking, that could be right in front of you?
Love really is all around.
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