Love Makes Us Blind, Let Us Find Back Our Sight

The difficult part is what comes after. When the meaningful to the fellow is still there but the magic is gone.

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Life is this beautiful, sometimes messy — and almost always intricate thing we have the chance to experience.

We often struggle with its meaning, asking ourselves and the one above, the why we were put into this world. This is especially true when nothing is going in the direction we want — even more, when it’s about love.

For the strong and proud human beings we are, we have quite a sensible heart. We strive for connection, we want to feel loved and cared for.

Everyone deserves it, standing next to a meaningful fellow human being is one of the best feelings the world has to offer. When you add touch to that, time can only stop for you two to enjoy the magic.

The difficult part is what comes after. When the meaningful to the fellow is still there but the magic is gone. Actually, it’s not totally gone. It’s like Lavoisier said: nothing is lost, nothing is created, everything is transformed.

The magic that brought you together and kept your beings close, slowly shape itself into strings — every so often into chains. Sometimes we don’t want to let go, and we pull as hard as we can. Other times, we want to flee, far far away, but the chains are holding us back.

It’s the memories, those little pieces of the past that keep us chained.

When two people meet each other, they have no expectations, only curiosity and sometimes lust. They go on, they talk, the connection starts. Then come the laughs, the nights out, the eyeing — and the feeling good.

Magic, memories in motion.

The more you feel good, the more you want to feel good. Then comes the expectations. Sometimes they are met, but once in a blue moon, it’s not what we hoped.

You’re already attached, the link is strong and doesn’t want to let you go — even when you know that you should.

It is possible to break free from those chains, but you have to see them first.

You have to look at every string. You’ll start by finding the good and the chain will only be stronger — keep going. Then you’ll find the less good, and the chain will loosen up.

The point is not to find what the other is lacking, nor the thing you disliked and start hating. You just want to find clarity. Love makes us blind, you just want to find back your sight.

The strings you feel are not the only ones. If you look on your right, they may be more. Strings that never took the shape of chains. Strings that still are magic.

You may only find the magic in yourself, that’s alright. But sometimes you’ll find the magic in the people around you.

The pull will only loosen up, it will not disappear. And quite frankly it’s for the best. If there’s a chance in a million for both of you to find the connection you lost, it’s by achieving clarity and looking directly at what went wrong.

I hope you all free yourselves from your chains and fly like the dove you’re supposed to be.

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If you loved this article, you may want to read this one. It inspired me to write this piece.

If Your Biggest Challenge Is Deciding Whether You Should Be Together — You Are Not in Love

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Previously published on “Hello, Love”, a Medium publication.

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