Nate Bagley sits down with a couple who were friends for 30 years before they got married to learn about how to be happily single and then transition into a happy marriage.
Part 1:
In this week’s episode we sit down with Jim and Cindy Wigdahl. Jim and Cindy have been friends for over 30 years, but have only been married for 4 or 5 years. Their story is amazing and sad and full of hope all at the same time. It will open your heart. I hope you love it.
In this conversation, we discuss:
- What it’s like to marry your friend of 30 years after not seeing them in nearly 2 decades.
- Jim explains what it’s like to be single till your mid-50’s… and be happy about it.
- The feeling of peace that results when you choose to be with someone.
- The importance of your community supporting your relationship.
- What it’s like to have a short engagement, and end up really courting and getting to know each other after marriage.
- Jim discusses how his concept of God has changed and grown since he has been married.
Favorite quotes from this episode:
“Don’t ultimately hesitate to give your life away. Don’t hesitate to release the thing that you cling to, because you will find that it will move into a better thing. And you will find yourself more fortunate because of it.”
-Jim Wigdahl
“Marriage will break you. It will destroy you. And that’s a good thing. Because it will then put you together in a way that is richer, and deeper, and you will be more alive than you ever thought you could be.”
-Jim WigdahlDon’t like ads? Become a supporter and enjoy The Good Men Project ad free
Part 2:
In part 2 In this week’s episode we wrap up last week’s conversation (above) with Jim and Cindy Wigdahl. Jim and Cindy have been friends for over 30 years, but have only been married for 4 or 5 years. Their story is amazing and sad and full of hope all at the same time. It will open your heart. I hope you love it.
In this conversation, we discuss:
- Not trying to change each other.
- Be a good listener.
- The power of male friendships
- Don’t allow yourself to be drawn to a person who is exactly like you
- Love yourself first
- Being ok not having all the answers, and instead being a questioner
- How losing your spouse changes your perspective of life
- Loneliness
- How do you know in 2 months that you were supposed to get married?
- “I’m happy to be stuck with you.” When you’re single, if you don’t like something, you just leave and find something else that you prefer.
Originally appeared at The Loveumentary