Sometimes, we just need an idea — a replanting of a seed. That simple seed, when watered, grows. If I pay attention to a few planted positive thoughts, the new mindset will stick over time.
Here is one:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.
We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?”…
Marianne Williamson
The above is the starting section of a poem that, although often misquoted, always comes through. You may have been taught to stay small, but that does not positively serve you or the world.
Step into your brilliance; those around you will see this and want more! This action also gives permission to your “watchers” to do the same. “Watchers” are co-workers, children, mentors, and so on. Whether you are aware of them or not, your fans will see you allow yourself to succeed and will want to follow suit.
There is a part of you that knows how awesome you are. There is a part of you that knows what you are good at. There is a part of you that knows what your biggest passions are. Lead from that place, go forth in the world, conquer your brain’s self-imposed limitations, and go shine brighter than halogen headlights. Be so awesome. I have to put on sunglasses to look at you. Do this for you.
In all reality, my deepest fear is that when I am out there shining, I will be judged by others. This happens regardless of whether I shine or fail. At least if I shine, I am the one getting the self-satisfaction.
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“Take one day at a time.”
Unknown
Some quotes are hard to find originators/authors for. Some quotes make total sense and may have been around since the creation of anxiety. The phrase “take one day at a time” fits this category.
In the realm of Monday Motivation, the phrase means not to focus on Thursday’s task list but instead focus on today’s. If I focus on Thursday’s list, I will create anxiety and distraction. My focus will wane, and I will start to procrastinate today. When I focus on today and the specific task I am doing, I am more likely to accomplish it and succeed.
This term is commonplace in the recovery world. Addiction is often a coping mechanism for anxiety. Anxiety comes from not living in the now. Yes, it can have a root cause in big T and little T trauma, but on a day-to-day, hourly basis, it does not serve us positively to pre-think every situation repeatedly starting a week before an event. Maybe in that situation, set aside a little time every day to work on preparation for said event. Only focus on that day, not the next or the event. Therefore, “taking one day at a time” avoids thinking about the seven days simultaneously which causes stress and overwhelms the body with response chemicals.
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“No Worries”
This phrase stems from Australian culture. It was made famous in the USA by a film character named Crocodile Dundee. Wikipedia credits its American fame to Steve Irwin, but Mr. “That’s not a Knife. This is a knife” was first.
No Worries exemplifies “Let it go” energy. Yes, that happened, but move on. Or when you ask for a flavor of ice cream at the parlor and they are out of it, instead of raising a temper tantrum in your brain or worse, turning into a toddler and throwing a fit, say, “No worries.” Ask them what they have similar to it.
Or when your favorite team loses a game. Instead of letting it ruin your entire week or smashing your television, give yourself a few minutes to be sad, angry, and disappointed, then say, “No Worries.” We’ll get them next time.
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“Be impeccable with your word.”
The Four Agreements
Don Miguel Ruiz
“Be impeccable with your word” is an important one.
There are many people in the world who live with an “I can say whatever I want” principle. Their talk is all about getting attention; they do not intend to follow up and have no care as to whether what they are saying is true or not. All that matters is that their speaking gets attention.
Others will tell you what you want to hear so they can get something from you (other than attention). They may be trying to sell you a new automobile, get you to vote for them in the upcoming election, or hide something they have done from you.
I was in a heated conversation with a spouse one day and called her out on something they said. I remember saying, “What about the Four Agreements? What about being impeccable with our words?” Their reply was the truth; I am thankful for that. In the heat of that moment, they gave me their truth by saying, “I’m not going to be impeccable with my word. I’m just not.” It is not that they were in denial about saying things that were not true or following through on what they said. It is that they are unwilling to change.
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So this Monday’s Motivation is four things, ideas, and thoughts you just planted to help you have a positive mindset:
1. Allow yourself to shine. Be seen in all your awesomeness.
2. Take one day at a time. Don’t try to solve the year’s troubles today.
3. No worries. Let things go, don’t fixate or jump on the hamster wheel of worry.
4. Be impeccable with your word. Follow through with action and don’t tell lies to make yourself look good or to avoid accountability.
Have a great week!
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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