“You didn’t tell me he was black!!!!”
“I don’t mind that you did it, but it’s not something I would do.”
“I still love you, but you know what you’re doing is wrong.”
“I don’t believe the two kinds should mix.”
“I’ve got a friend who is black like that!”
“He’s attractive, for a black guy.”
“He’s not my type, I’m not attracted to black guys.”
I’m sick of ignoring these comments; they hurt. In my case, these comments all came from well-meaning friends and family, some on my very wedding day. Many people likely think what they are saying is fine and that we are cool, but I now know how you really feel. In fairness, we’ve all said and done things that were missteps, so I’m not going to hold it against them every time. However, I do wish to educate them about the harmfulness of their words.
When two people I loved dearly refused to let my black husband in their yard for no other reason than his skin color, I began to have a fuller understanding of what my future would look like. I have to think ahead of time about where we are going, and if he will be welcomed there. It’s more than being allowed in the house, which is already absurd, but it is
You were berated publicly for holding hands on the Marta, and I’m told that I should know the races shouldn’t mix.
We should all stand against the injustices all around us. When we sit back and watch quietly as people of color, the LGBTQ community, special needs, and others are being treated poorly, we are adding to the injustice with our silence. When you hear something—SAY SOMETHING! To be an activist you don’t have to be at a big protest, or write a book. Simply STAND UP in your everyday life!
At the office cooler, with your family, at the cash register, STAND UP and SPEAK OUT! Bullying, discrimination, racism, sexism, homophobia, and the like are all very alive and real. We have to be louder than those who think that showing consideration for others is just “being politically correct.”
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