By Beleaf in Fatherhood
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Theo’s 7th birthday is coming up on February 9th and he decides to make the biggest decision he’s ever made. We support his decision but it was hard for us to hear, and it will take a little while getting used to it.
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hi my name is Bo this is my partner
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Wyatt I know you guys can’t believe it
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but on February 9th our oldest son Theo
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turns seven now this is a monumental
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birthday for him because he’s made a big
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decision that we’re gonna talk about in
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this video you want to feel special on
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your birthday yes okay what do you want
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to do can we really do what what’s
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happening now what is it that you don’t
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have that you want because you just got
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a lot of stuff for Christmas so Theo’s
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birthday is coming up and he he’s
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talking about his his birthday and one
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of the things he wanted to do for his
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birthday before his birthday was what no
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no what do you want to do before your
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birthday oh come here oh yeah
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and are you sure you want to do this I
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[Music]
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mean it could grow back you can grow
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your hair for six years actually five
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years four hundred I do hundred okay
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guys so we had a I didn’t even tell you
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guys this yet but this is some really
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big news
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Theo has confessed to us and he’s been
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talking to us for a while about doing
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something that we were both like kind of
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concerned about but you know just
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because it’s gonna change some things
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you know like in his appearance but Theo
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wants to cut his hair and he has not
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stopped talking about it for how long
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they’re two months he’s been talking
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about it and so we were gonna just kind
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of wait just wait it out to see if he
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was gonna change his mind
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but he’s very adamant about it and so
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yeah you know I think like his reasons
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are it’s it’s in his way people pull it
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like Izzy pulls it you don’t sometimes
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like he’s laying down or someone lays
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next to him any lay on top of it yeah
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but he wants his hair cut all the way
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off but we’ve tried to show alternate
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like hairstyles that will keep you out
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of his face and he’s like
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he wants us wood once and so as I’m
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editing this video I’m realizing how sad
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I look right now and I just want to let
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you know that the story does get better
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if you want to know whether or not we
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allowed the old to cut his hair then
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there’s a spoiler at the end I mean like
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I we’ve always blown him like that you
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know he got his hair cut once when he
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was like 1 and then we do it back ok
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buddy um and so he wants to do it he’s
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been talking about it and so he really
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said he wants to do it because he wants
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to be like his uncle I want to say my
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until I grew up like y’all don’t I want
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to see my hair all the way click like
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that like my our children are an
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expression of my wife and I was loved
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they came from love and so as we
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transition into this month talking about
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joy I know our kids love us but are they
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really experiencing a life full of joy
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like are they joyful what happens if
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what we love about our kids encroaches
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on their rights to love themselves or
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prevents them from having joy seeing a
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black boy joyful disturb you dick
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because usually he has to worry about
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how people perceive him how the media
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paints him how society fetishizes him in
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his youth and fears him in his
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adolescence or in this case how his
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parent mean his father projects on him
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[Music]
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[Music]
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like that like this you know first
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they’re gonna play yeah that’s a play
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too much then they try to say that
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you’re a cute uh then they try to tell
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you even black you know look at a black
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boy Joey look at a black girl magic in
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the day but you got the kid in the day
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into the day but you’ve got the gang
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look at the black boy joy little black
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girl
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[Music]
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joy to the world joy to the world this
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is message to the black know boys and
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girls nine kind of exclude nobody yells
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but I wanted to tell my kids they should
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let itself at it okay so you know what
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did you say you want to do you ready to
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cut your hair all off yeah does he
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really need a reason though because what
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my night when I sleep and then when I
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wake up and then when I take off my head
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wrap my hair gets sick up on top I make
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it silly and sometimes it gets in my
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face yeah you’re tired of having it on
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your head huh I’m tired of it I’m tired
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of it like go in my helmet going on my
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and that’s why and well I just don’t
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want my hair to be like well wait a
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minute babe here you got it you got to
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understand something man play that
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sometimes if you have something that you
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want to do it’s okay for you to do it
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you don’t have to let people talk you
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out of it he is certain that’s the
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decision he really wants to make don’t
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you think it’s important for him to
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understand that there are other options
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yeah I think you should know that there
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are other options but at the same time I
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just want you to know that if you want
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to cut your hair that’s okay and but
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mommy can show you some styles okay
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right I just think you should just I
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think we should just cut it because I
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just know that your mom is gonna talk
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you out of it and it’s only gonna
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prolong it eventually it’s gonna cut it
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off he I think he gets I think he
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understands I just don’t think he knows
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how cold his head is gonna be how coat
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his neck is gonna be how many hats is
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gonna have to wear and how often you got
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to get your hair cut yeah cuz if you you
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have to get you got to keep getting your
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hair cut unless you’re gonna grow it
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back out yep what’d you guys do today
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right now yeah sure but that’s where I
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got the Reese’s Cups okay life’s ice
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cream no that’s it
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family night family night Papa’s gah
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family night family night
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Papa’s gonna wear
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[Music]
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[Music]
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[Applause]
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[Music]
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no such there’s no such thing is my
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world without you in it I know sometimes
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we push each other’s patience to the
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limit no matter how you spin it you’ll
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be we meet through infinite
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