My Views on Long Distance Relationships

We are creatures of emotions, and physical touch makes us feel loved, wanted, and cared for. But unfortunately, long-distance relationships lack offline connection, and even though people make it work and create beautiful deep companionship despite the distance, I’m not too fond of the idea. The idea of distance might seem fine temporarily, but to be constantly apart from the one you love, for me, equals not living your life to the fullest and not experiencing love to its full potential!

However, sometimes long distances become inevitable (temporarily), and you must have the tools to work through the situation. It is challenging but also fun and adventurous; you get to be creative with showing the other person that they matter to you and that you care about their presence in your life.

How to make it work?

Gifts and Surprises

Long distance relationships can quickly become monotonous, where you both talk at the end of your days, and monotony can lead to boredom. Plan small surprises that add newness: if you always talk to them on the phone, send them a letter or a long mail telling them how much they mean to you. The idea is to do something different from the usual routine.

Send them a mug of your pictures that they can look at every morning, and send them heart pillows. The idea is to place objects around them that remind them of your presence throughout the day.

I will give you my favorite idea for surprising your long-distance partner daily: Create an Instagram page that only they follow and upload new content every day, such as comics (milk and mocha), posts (poemsporn is a good page for reference), post your videos, post a video of your friends telling your partner how much they mean to you. You can do a lot of new, interesting stuff on the page from time to time! Create a vibe of fun, laughter, and romance through the page. Trust me; it works like magic! (Additional tip: only post once daily and let the other person crave it!).

Make them a part of your schedule

Conversation becomes your chief source of engagement with your partner during long distance. And therefore, it becomes crucial that you give it the due attention that it needs.

Take out time EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. to talk to the other person. On days when something urgent comes up, drop them a nice text informing about the same and send some extra Gifs to make up for it. But it must only be once in a while. You’ll need to schedule your day so you have time to spare for phone calls with your partner.

One benefit of long-distance relationships is the ability to have a lot of in-depth conversations. However, this does not necessarily have to be the case. Regular communication, no matter how brief, will demonstrate that you respect the relationship enough to make an effort to maintain it.

Lastly, I found this article on getlasting.com, which is written by professional therapists to help people with some tips on how to make long-distance relationships work.

Refer to it here: Therapists Share 9 Tips to Make Long Distance Relationships Work

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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