His wife’s on strike. She isn’t doing HER HALF of the housework! Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt’s wondering…
Question: My wife has stopped doing her half of the housework and gets bitchy when I ask her about it. She doesn’t work so I can’t imagine her doing anything all day! How do I fix this problem?
Answer: Love, I can’t imagine that after doing half the housework all this time, she all of a sudden decided not to… What’s happened?
Do you have kids? Has she taken on a new volunteer commitment? Did you really piss her off? Yes we women are fabulously unpredictable creatures yet we normally have a reason if we decide to ‘strike’.
Sadly, one of my clients had no clue how unhappy his wife was until she had an affair and abruptly left him. Thankfully through coaching he was able to own where he was too focused on work and not focused enough on their connection. He was able to own that he avoided conflict at all costs… and this cost was his marriage.
I’m not saying you’re going to get a divorce over a messy home, yet this is a huge red flag that it’s time to communicate! Reflective listening is a great tool when communicating to make sure the other feels heard, “So what I heard you say is that… xyz.” Any justification, projection, denial or blame is only going to make things worse, so seek to understand and be understood, not to be right or win. And if the conversations go no where but yelling without resolution or forward movement, get help.
We week wise counsel for our bodies, our companies, our children… choosing support for our most precious gifts- our relationships- is smart and effective for comes with a huge return on your investment. Happy wife? Happy life (and no more overflowing laundry basket).
For support in how to be a bold, centered, honest and effective communicator with women, how to not be subjected to emasculation and how to show up as a noble badass and create a hot healthy intimate relationship, read my complementary report and video series www.GetHerToSayYes.com.
For one on one help navigating what’s UNDERNEATH the strike of not doing the housework and HEALING your marriage, communication, intimacy and clean home, contact [email protected] for a Strategy Session Subj: GMP Sent Me- Wife Won’t Do The Housework. Let’s be proactive, courageous and feircly loving to nip this in the bud and get your connection solid, honoring and delicious again.
Huge love and endless blessings, Allana xox