New Dating Trend — Prioridating: You Can Avoid the Perfect Partner

Mr. and Ms. Right got kicked out of the chat.

You don’t need to hold your sex, dating, love, or relationship life hostage for a perfect someone. Newsflash! No one is perfect. The quest for the best one has left many suitable people blue-ticked.

Meanwhile, the wrong ones traumatize us. We gave them everything and get hurt. Now, we have these walls; no one can scale.

You don’t need to quit dating apps.

Quit looking for the checklist partner.

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How Prioridating Works?

Everywhere you turn online, there are relationship goals and new dating standards. If you follow them, no one will ever be good enough for you. And if you’re a perfectionist, you’ll be too fantastic for everyone else. What is the middle ground? Prioridating!

Here’s the definition by the word creator.

“What’s your number one most important priority when it comes to finding a partner? Determine that, and you WILL find and fulfill your need. Your one most important thing might be Safe- physical, emotional, financial safety. It might be feeling Cared For, or Romance, or a Partner, or Fun, or Friendship, or Adventure, or Family. Whatever your one priority is, you must align with it. Your conversations, associations, thoughts, actions, attitude must all align with the Priority of being, feeling, experiencing, living that Priority.”

“PrioriDating is about you- your life, your experience of life, based on your perspective, created by your past experiences, that shaped who you are and what you need moving forward. It’s time to own and show up As the Priority and With your Priority in mind and in action. Once you define and align with your priority, you have a better chance at discovering and fulfilling your needs — first (and most importantly) within yourself and then within a partner. Win-win-win.” — Laurel House

When you meet someone, every detail seems to matter (or not matter). But six months or years later, plus kids, many know.

That’s too late.

Choose it today. What is the one thing to make or break for your relationships? Right now, what do you need most for a partner? Focus on it if frustrated with your dating experiences. If someone has this quality, you can feel at peace while building with them.

Society teaches us to want all the best things in life and from romantic partners. But you’re robbing yourself of happiness.

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Choose one thing. Find someone with it to be happy long-term.

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Prioridating is not settling.

You deny your deepest desires. You don’t have to be this person who resents others for getting what they deserve. Someone’s looks, height, or bank account won’t matter when you need emotional support. It’s true.

I had a friend who said she could carry her baby’s looks. Why would she say this? We were being picky about how her man looked. But she knew he was a supportive guy. And would not question her decision because of something frivolous.

It is not settling. Why?

You aren’t expecting the world of your partner. Because you have removed society’s checklist to use for comparisons. So, choosing them doesn’t feel like settling. And you can always self-confirm your choice when external people criticize your decision.

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How can prioridating work for you?

Avoid picking the first male or female who has the quality you need unless you will have them on a trial run.

What does that even mean?

Your needs will change. People in long-term relationships have different needs from when they first met.

Pick someone who meets your current priority. But this person is also self-developing. By then, they should have grown to meet your new need.

For example, you require support. You picked a supportive partner, but they don’t have it together financially. It’s okay, for now, because they are building their startup or returning to school. Years later, you can evaluate your needs and your partner’s ability to meet them.

On paper, that sounds terrible. But in a relationship, you will do this evaluation, anyway. That’s why people regret who they married or their age at first marriage or child. Prioridating allows for planning to reduce regrets.

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Essential Note

Your partner complements you. They do not complete you.

If you want to align with a partner, aim to be that person for yourself first. If you have trauma and this isn’t possible, give yourself the grace to grow emotionally.

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