This comment by AllyF on the post Why Don’t Women Like Nice Guys?
Groucho Marx said there’s one way to find out if a man is honest – ask him. If he says yes, you know he’s a crook.
Kinda think the same thing applies to so called nice guys. Especially capitalized Nice Guys (TM) I’ve read a fair few of their blogs and groups, and have to say I struggle to see much evidence for the claim.
No offence to the authors here, it’s an interesting discussion and they’ve jumped aboard other people’s terminology, but the idea that there is a straight binary between nice guys and bad boys is a joke, the idea that wild, dangerous guys get laid all the time is a fantasy, the idea that guys who treat women with respect and kindness are destined for the shelf is a lie, and the claim that women are a unitary species who all have the same desires, attractions, preferences and behaviors is a heap of sexist shite.
In short, the whole debate is predicated on fiction upon fiction upon fiction upon fiction You might as well debate whether Santa Claus would beat the Tooth Fairy in a fight.
One thing that probably is true, however, is that very few women are attracted to whiny, self-pitying milksops with a streak of entitlement as wide as the highway and a dollop of misogyny coursing through their veins. I suspect that’s at the root of this phenomenon.
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Food for Thought:
How much longevity would your relationship have without both being nice to each other?
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