Six years ago, a divorce was filed after a 20-year marriage.
During the 5 years prior to that filing, the search for any reason to stay in the marriage commenced.
No longer was the excuse of staying for the kids working.
No longer was the excuse of staying because of vows made at a wedding working.
No longer was the excuse of “maybe this person will actually change in the future” working.
No matter how many excuses were found, there was no reason to stay.
No reason to stay, is a good reason to go.
After years of being deceived, lied to, abused, all trust and respect had disappeared. The hope for civility between us remained; love for what once had been remained; but when trust and respect are gone…there is no longer a reason to stay.
The marriage was left. The relationship was left. The pain and isolation was left.
The day the divorce papers were signed, the following words were said “You won’t actually leave. I don’t believe for one minute that you will carry this through. I am 99.9% sure you will come back. You are just not the type of person to leave.”
All hope for civility between us left…there was no reason to stay.
Two weeks later, the moving truck arrived. A message was received that read “I will never forgive you for what you have done. You are a horrible person. I hate you.”
All love for what once had been left…there was no reason to stay.
Throughout the next five years, the deception, the lies, the abuse continued in direct proportion to the lack of trust and respect that grew…a good reason to go.
A move to another city was planned. A custody case was held within the court system. During the case, the following words were said “You won’t actually leave. You will stay living in this same area. I am 99.9% percent sure you will never move away. You are just not the type of person to leave.”
Twenty years of marriage, five years of divorce, twenty-three years of having children together and we were two strangers looking at each other across the courtroom…a good reason to go.
No reason to stay, is a good reason to go.
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Marriage is a joke!