Question: Allana, online dating isn’t working, people setting me up isn’t working, at this point I fear I am going to die alone. What am I doing wrong or what at least what should I try next?
Answer: My sweet, you’re doing nothing wrong, you’ve never done anything wrong… You’ve always done your best.
You’ve been courageous to engage in online dating, yes? You’ve been courageous going on dates that people set you up on, yes? You’ve been courageous reaching out to me, yes? And yet you’re not meeting a match, yes?
Let’s go deeper.
Judging yourself is only making things worse, closing in your heart and making your not so sexy, yes? What would you tell a butterfly trying to get out of a cocoon… Give up! Just die inside there! 😉 Or would you encourage the butterfly to keep elbowing it’s way out of the chrysalis showing that challenge is the gift of transforming it’s body into the capacity for flight?
If we come from a place of self judgment and lack and emptiness… the vibration we put out is frankly not very healthy, inspiring or sexy, yes? It’s possible that the way you present yourself is from a place of neediness or skepticism. It’s possible that you haven’t been as clear as you could be about what your deal breakers are and your core values you’re looking for in a partner so that the people setting you up aren’t empowered to support you effectively.
It’s possible that your heart is still wounded from the past and so even though your mind says you’re ready for Love… your heart is not ready and subconsciously sabotages you.
Would you say you have a healthy intimate relationship with your heart? Your little you? Your truth? Do you love your wobbly parts as much as you love your magnificent parts? Can you say that you unconditionally love yourself to the best of your ability? This inner world will always create your outer world.
So if you’re afraid to get your heart broken you literally have 1 foot on the break and 1 foot on the gas. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong… just means it’s time to do your inner work!
There’s no way I could coach a full coaching practice of global clients plus group coaching clients without having my own set of coaches that have my back! I am most certainly masterful at what I coach and heal, but I’m also a humble student. I need somebody to surrender into, somebody to have my back, somebody there so I can rest, be held and loved unconditionally in my wobbliness.
Given your commitment, given your persistence, given your desire to have a healthy intimate relationship… even if you’ve worked with various coaches before… Keep going!
It could be that you reached out to me because the next guide and mentor on your spiritual journey and relationship adventure is me! 😉 I encourage you to apply for a complementary session to see if you’re a fit for me to invite you to work with me by going to www.AllanaPratt.com/connect.
Day after day, year after year… I’m privileged to witness extraordinary transformation in my clients where they go from single to dating, dating to exclusive, exclusive to married, married to parents… Marriages on the brink of disaster to sizzling, affairs and broken hearts to deeper intimacy and intimate connection.
Anything is possible my friend, all you need to do is show up, commit, and let me love you Home to the grandeur that you are.
I look forward to hearing from you soon.
All my love and blessings, Allana
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