“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”-Winston Churchill.
Know that intimate relationships are no different. It is essential that hope and peace are maintained. This is one of the reasons I stress the importance of knowing what your boundaries are. Why? Because you know what you will and will not tolerate from your partner. This in itself should bring a level of peace and optimism.
If the violations in a long-term relationship or marriage fall into the category of non-negotiables, it’s time to get out. “Sometimes you have to make a decision that will break your heart but will give peace to your soul.”-Unknown Author. What’s pessimistic about that? You’re doing what’s best for your heart and soul in the long run. That is the epitome of optimism. So, how much more so for problems in the union that can be negotiated or tolerated? Unfortunately, many couples have an unrealistic view of what relationships and marriage should be. Therefore, when trouble appears their knee-jerk reaction is to cut and run.
However, as I stress to clients and followers alike, Everything that takes place in the relationship that is not a non-negotiable falls into one of two categories. 1. Something that can be negotiated 2. Something you can be patient with. These are the 3 categories that all relationship issues should be placed in. When your relationship ‘ducks’ are in a row, what is there to be pessimistic about? It doesn’t mean there won’t be some discomfort or even pain involved. But, because you have the proper relationship vision, you will never see the glass as half empty.
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This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.
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