
It’s true; our world is fragile as glass in so many ways. The climate is fragile and we are trampling on its infinite complexity with ignorance and abandon. Our social order, with its complex web of custom and civil behavior, is fraying; as face-to-face interaction wanes during Covid, web-fueled impatience and rage are becoming the norm. And our personal life, formerly organized around stable relationships and daily routines, is upended. Even our very sense of what is real and true is subject to this fragility. In terms of personal life, I read that the average weight gain during the two years of Covid–average!–is 29 pounds. That means there are some people that gained much more than that. Think of what that must mean in terms of anxiety, depressed mood, and isolation, as well as the long-term health consequences. We would not be too far off to think that our whole world is falling apart.

When I lived in a rural Buddhist retreat center, Jerry, an older man who was part Native American, lived with us and was a kind of elder advisor about the natural world. Once, when a group of us were hiking, he suddenly said, “Stop!” We all froze. “Don’t step on that,” he said, pointing at the ground. “That’s Yerba Buena, that’s a medicine plant. We never step on that.”
Consider a culture– like the one Jerry was raised in– that was so sensitive to its surroundings that its people were trained to watch every step and respect every plant. That’s a culture that recognized that the world was is indeed as fragile as glass, and lived and acted accordingly. Think how far distant our modern world is from such a worldview. If we live in a city, we barely see the natural world. We don’t see the stars, we don’t register the phases of the moon, we don’t “walk in beauty” to use a phrase that reflects how life once was, long ago, when people depended on the land for survival and appreciated its beauty. Such a culture lives in a different reality than ours, a reality suffused with sensitivity to the subtle balances of the natural world and of human relations. Aside from the reality supposed by scientists– which itself is a web of experimental results built up out of repeatable observations of nature– what we experience as “real” is more tentative than we suppose. Is what we experience on social media “real?” Will the so-called metaverse, if it ever comes to fruition, be real or imaginary?
Much of what we say is real is what those around us and those that speak with a loud megaphone say is real. It’s sometimes hard to know. Is the Covid vaccine– to take a case from today’s headlines– a life-saving medicine or an untested poison that kills people? Who’s talking? When I was a kid, the nightly news ended with Walter Cronkite looking into the camera and saying with conviction, “And that’s the way it is.”
Now we have to say, “And that’s the way some people say it is but others say different.” Perhaps we will get through this period of uncertainty and chaos and come together again in one piece. That happened after other great world crises, like World War II. Or perhaps we won’t. That uncertainty itself makes us feel fragile.
So let’s keep our fingers crossed– an interesting expression in itself. Will crossing our fingers really help? Is that real? Does it matter?
Something to ponder.
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