Overcoming the Dragon of Mediocrity

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There is a force in this world that will suck the life out of you if you let it. A force that if you run with it, sleep with it, wake up with it, and let yourself be defined by it, will destroy you, little by little, until there is nothing left.

That force is called mediocrity, and every man who wants to rise above, must face it off, stare it down, and overcome it.

This force also goes by other names such as mundane, routine or average. It causes you to say “I’m not enough”, it causes you to give up, settle, play small, give in to fears and revert to your B game. It is subtle but it is powerful and it will slowly drain the life out of your soul if you let it. Mediocrity will deprive you of living a full and awesome life.

Some men are awake to it, as are some women. Others wake up at 60 years of age and wonder what happened. Mediocrity happens when we tolerate our own excuses. It happens when we allow our own insecurities to get the better of us. It happens when we listen to the opinions of others and allow them to shape us and tell us who we are. It happens when we simply stop showing up, if we ever showed up at all, and it happens to good men everywhere, every day, all over the planet.

These men live ‘good enough’ lives. They hold down steady jobs. They marry beautiful women. They raise children. They go about their everyday existence, being the men they were taught to be, being the men they are expected to be, being the men they believe they should be, being the ‘nice guys’ of society.

In this day and age, we no longer battle animals and predators in the wild. We no longer have to go out and hunt for food and protect our tribes. But modern men do have a battle and it is larger than ever before. The battle is with the unseen forces of the mind.

Mindset IS everything. Belief in who you are as a man will define you.

If your head isn’t right, your heart won’t be right. If your mindset is weak, then you will be off-centre, off-course and off your game. You will remain weak in your own masculinity. You will live a good enough life, but never really feeling alive. You’ll wake up one day and wonder why your wife has divorced you, and life has passed you by.

It’s time for a wake up call. The world needs real men. Women need real men. Children need real men. It is time to rebel against the powers of mediocrity in your own life and get serious about being the man you were born and designed to be.

Wellness starts with saying out loud, writing it down on paper, what it is that you want in life, what type of man you want to be (and actually are), and what you are going to do about it.
Defeating the dragon of mediocrity starts with changing your beliefs about yourself, from this very day, this very moment, because what you focus on, is what you get.

It’s not about ‘more’, it’s not about achievements, possessions, control or power. It is about standing in your own strength as a man, having clarity of mind, understanding yourself and taking up the challenge for excellence in your life, no matter what other people say or do around you.

Wellness takes up the sword of confidence and starts wielding it against your demons of insecurity and doubts. You are a champion. You are a man with courage and you can stand up, strong in your own presence.

My son loves the saying “do you even lift bro”. But this isn’t about lifting, how much you can bench press, what salary you’re on, or how many notches you have in your sexual belt.
This is about a call to wake up, get up and show up. To be the man you are born to be takes courage. To be the best version of you starts with awareness. To overcome the dragon of your own fears and insecurities.

This is my challenge as much as it is yours; we are each called to take up this call every day and go to sleep at night, knowing we ‘showed up’, regardless of the outcome. If you want success in life, if you want success in relationships, if you want success as a man, take action, release the resistance to be ‘average’ and allow yourself the freedom and the honour to stand up and be counted.

Jim Carey said, “The effect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is. So risk being seen in all of your glory.”

The world needs men like this, in business, in relationships, at home, in the street, in the boardroom, on the road, on stage, in bed, in families, EVERYWHERE, men who are kind, gentle, strong, present, emotionally available, courageous and honest.

This is about men who know how to love, with open vulnerable hearts, and men who believe in themselves enough to ‘show up’ every day and change their own worlds. Be that man!
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