Patience in Nuclear Black Family [Video]

By Beleaf in Fatherhood

This season of life for our family is one of disruption. We are blessed to be remodeling our house, but I would be lying to you all if I said that it has been ideal to relocate during the renovation with four children who are homeschooled plus a new puppy. In addition to renovations, there’s also renegotiations going on. Yvette and I are having to find new ways to adjust to each of our children’s behaviors and needs while still preserving the culture of our family. Sometimes that means taking a different approach to parenting, which requires a lot of patience from both of us and our children. Through it all, I feel as though God is telling us we need to be patient as we live through the lesson He is trying to give us.

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it’s impossible to just copy the answer
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you can’t do that you have to start off
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with sentences
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you know what else is hard though
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squats
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all living my life let’s go down for
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many
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[Music]
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to keep it real it starts where your
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family is
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[Music]
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hold steady
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[Music]
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grasping black silk takes skill
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there’s a fine line between being a
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crafts woman and an artist
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god threaded these follicles in your
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crown
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not as a problem for you to solve
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or as a mess for you to manage
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but as a screen for your thoughts to
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vibe through as they usher into your
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imagination
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an honest macrame
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polished by earth’s essentials
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that is meant to be adorned for an
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audience of self
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this is for you
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architects marvel at the design
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surgeon’s dream of the execution
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this takes time
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and requires your patience
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i guess the old sayings are true
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anything worth having is worth waiting
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for
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your hair is an antenna
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guiding you to the promised land
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your ancestral birthright
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your roots are connected to god
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take advantage of the uninterrupted
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signal you pick up
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ethernet speeds even if your heart
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drifts into oblivion
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[Music]
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because the father
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is patient
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[Music]
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[Music]
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is it no
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where is it
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i thought disney owned cinderella
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it’s fair
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it’s a song
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what song is it it’s ripping off yeah
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it says
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[Music]
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hey man you better go finish that work
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don’t come over here
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is he going over here bud
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are you doing work
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how’s it going
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yeah all right how’s it going
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good
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i came to our current shelter
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and uh noticed my wife making this face
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now this is the face of a mom who’s kind
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of come to her end
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trying to help out our son
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ryan just wasn’t getting it and i
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decided to step in for a moment the
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thing is this season has required a lot
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of patience from everybody we’re still
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dealing with the whole uriah puzzle
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situation
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and while in the middle of two bathroom
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renovations we discovered we had water
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damage
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so we had to remove some of the floors
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which meant we ended up replacing all of
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the floors downstairs so now we live in
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different airbnbs
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and during the day in between work i
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show up to the airbnb to reinforce our
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current home culture
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buddy listen listen listen what i’m
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telling you right now
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right now you’re trying to find a
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shortcut and i’m telling you there is no
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shortcut
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you didn’t copy it that didn’t happen
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it’s impossible to just copy and answer
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and write it why are you looking at me
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okay
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it’s impossible to just copy the answer
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you can’t do that you have to start a
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complete sentence
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you know what else is hard though
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squats let’s go do something
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there you go let me get 25.
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that’s easy
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[Music]
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all right so that was easy right is that
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easier than writing a complete sentence
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easier right
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yes okay cool
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you got this let’s go come on
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see raya
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his plan is to avoid working so he’s
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just going to keep saying that things
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are hard
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and it’s challenging and he’s going to
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start to whine
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so my plan is to get on his nerves so he
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has no time to feel his own nerves we
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just gonna cut that hair off right
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all right so we’re flipping this page
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over we’re gonna erase all of this and
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we’re gonna figure out what is it what a
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complete sentence
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is okay here
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okay
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so the question is
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is this animal eaten by
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another animal right the answer is yes
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so how do you say that in a complete
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sentence because i didn’t ask you a
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question so we’re going to just take
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this information so how do you start
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this sentence
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[Music]
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this animal
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is eaten
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by
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[Music]
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very good but instead of saying this
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animal we already know we’re talking
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about which animal
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no what’s the animal we’re talking about
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very good so all you have to do is say
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boom
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you got it
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start
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erasing start you got it i’m gonna try
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to make space so i don’t have to
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okay it’s so interesting i can feel theo
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trying to be perfect
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come on bro i hope he knows that he
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doesn’t have to be even though i push
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him toward greatness i hope he knows
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that it doesn’t mean he’s not good
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enough as soon as i walk away uriah goes
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back to drifting off
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and i understand that because i was the
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same type of learner so i have to keep
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him engaged by any means necessary raya
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is really into physical play like he
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likes to fight and wrestle so when i
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can’t reach his mind i try to activate
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his physical so that i can stimulate the
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mental health
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come on let’s fight about it
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come on
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[Music]
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get up
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um
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[Music]
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[Music]
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sit down
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[Music]
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slide to the left and back knees up
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knees up slide to the right come on
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slide to the left come on you got it
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knees up knees up slide to the right
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slide to the left
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knees up knees up how you feeling
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how you feeling
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say energized
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say energized
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how you feeling
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how you feeling
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say energize
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energize
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say energize
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say
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[Music]
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you ready there you go
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you drink some water
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drink some water
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nothing like dad at school time drink it
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up
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whenever i sit back and look at our
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family during these editing sessions and
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get to speak through a microphone right
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i remember that there are people out
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there doing it alone
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single mothers single fathers
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or even people who are co-parenting but
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carrying all the weight alone for a
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portion of the week
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and i just want to let you know
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that you’re doing a good job and though
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i don’t understand you
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i hope that you are fighting for your
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peace and that you are taking advantage
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of the moments you have to care for
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yourself
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because that is an essential part of
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humanity
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my last point
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is something my therapist told me
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no one needs you more than you need you
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so have patience with yourself because
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the father
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is very patient
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did you catch that be careful and i am
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you’re a mess
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oh
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you

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