Jordan Gray says these four strategies do a lot more to woo the ladies than photos of privates ever will.
It isn’t news that most women don’t love receiving unsolicited dick pics via text message.
But if sending unsolicited photographs of your genitals to your hopefully-soon-to-be-girlfriend is off the table… what else is there to send? You have to fill that text convo with something, right?
Have no fear, fellow romantics… your ultimate guide to non-dick-pic texts is here.
Implement these five tips/behaviours/mindsets into your text game and you’ll have your text buddy swooning and starry eyed in no time.
Dating is fun. Getting to know someone is fun. Flirting is fun. And texting should be fun too.
Too many people get overly serious during the getting-to-know-each other phase of dating and this translates in the way that they text their partner.
Rule of thumb: if you’re routinely spending more than ten minutes thinking about to reply with, you might be letting your game-playing, calculating ego steer the results in your dating life more than your authentic self.
So let go of the rules. Don’t worry so much about seeming like the right level of available. Have fun. Be playful. Allow your fun loving, authentic self to show through in the way that you communicate via text. Make jokes. Give each other silly nicknames. Do whatever you need to do to make each other smile. If you aren’t having fun at the beginning of a relationship, then what’s the point?
Yes, flirtation has a lot of inherent playfulness, boundary testing, and poking and jabbing each other to see what you’re each made of. This is inherent of getting to know someone during courtship. This isn’t game playing. This is a necessary and healthy step in the process of two relative strangers getting to know each other.
But at the same time, you want to be balancing your playfulness and relatively empty banter with honesty and vulnerability.
While you can certainly get to know a lot about someone with what kind of playfulness and humour they find entertaining, some things need to be addressed more head on in your communication.
You should both be able to answer certain questions without deviating from the matter at hand. If you get stuck in your shtick of being the playful person then the depth of the relationship will be stunted from the outset.
If she asks you about your opinions/views/thoughts on sex, religion, philosophy, global issues, or gender (for example) and you aren’t able to talk about your thoughts without hiding behind a wall of humour, then this could be seen as a red flag that you aren’t able to drop in to the moment and be real with her.
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