Present Over Perfect

There is no recipe for happiness. Happiness, including, is a highly subjective concept like love, success, and the meaning of life. Each one finds the strength to wake up in the morning in a different place. What moves us is individual and non-transferable.

Therefore, I dedicate this article to people who, like me, aspire to a simpler life. If you, dear reader, believe that luxury and social status are indispensable elements for a happy life, do not feel offended. This article is just not directed at you, which is no big drama as each article is partial and subjective.

Yes, I seek a simpler life. And by simple, I mean a life less protocolar, less formal, with less need to fit into a closed and rigid system, with more doubts than certainties, with more intelligent questions to ask and listen to, than ready answers on the tip of the tongue.

By simple, I understand a life with less need for self-affirmation. A life where we don’t have to constantly prove our worth because those we love and who love us already know our worth. A life with fewer silly rules, with more flexible schedules, with more programs decided at the last minute, with more spontaneous smiles and laughter, with more sparkle in the eyes, with more jokes, with more spontaneity, with less anxiety in the face of the rigidity of routine, with more random conversations.

It’s horrible when we try to convince people about something all the time or when they try to convince us. It’s horrible to live in an eternal negotiation, an eternal ego war, wearing ourselves down over minor provocations, stressing over minor unforeseen circumstances, turning everything into something heavy. Why does the other person always have to agree with our point of view?

Obviously, some issues are really heavy and affect us. You can’t be light all the time. Not caring about anything can be a sign of emotional lethargy. On the other hand, turning everything into something heavy turns our existence into a torture.

Yes, I seek a life where being happy matters more than appearing happy. I seek a life where love is more important than the conveniences that bring couples together. I seek a life with fewer but higher quality friends. I seek a life where having fun and being comfortable outweighs being fashionable. I seek a life with more content. With more meaning in itself. May happiness not be found in what is to come. In what may never happen. May happiness be lived today and may we know how to recognize the present moment as a happy moment.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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