Take action now that the man you want to be will appreciate.
STOP! Quit! That is the simplest thing for a man to do when he isn’t enjoying his work, or who he works for. Many men do a good job of convincing themselves to let the people around them know they are not happy, and they are not going to do a better job if things don’t change. This mindset is how some men view the way to get the next opportunity.
This is a borderline threat, and we think it many times. Boy, did I use to think the same thing until I found out the hard way. This borderline threat only delays our future success. Think about what we are doing with this kind of thinking, we are only hurting ourselves, and not anyone else. Let me explain.
I am convinced that nothing better will happen unless we shift that kind of thinking into a mindset that says, “my way out” is to do even better so we can become more “attractive” to others around us, regardless of whether they are inside or outside my circles.
We all want to be more “attractive” to the people who will give us the chance to progress in our lives. I have also learned that it’s not always the people who are around you that will give you the next opportunity. Many times opportunities come our way from the outside, people that don’t know us well, but see us on a regular basis. these people could be a client, a sister department, a neighbor, even someone in the cafeteria or grocery store.
Think of what you do for your daily job. At the end of the day, it all boils down to our attitude, how we act, and performance, how well handle our daily responsibilities. If we let our guard down, it’s very easy to fall into the trap that says:
“my boss is dumb”
“the job I do is not for me”
“the people I work with are dumb”
“this company is not worth my best”
“I can’t wait for them to fail”
Because we let the current situation bring us down, we compromise ourselves. I strongly believe you are in control of the situation, even when the environment is not conducive for us to be our best.
All that is happening that looks, smells, and feels uncomfortable is temporary. What we really want is on its way, but we need to make sure we are not influenced negatively, or that we don’t give anyone permission to shift our thinking in the wrong direction. We must continue to invest in our future by doing even better. The people who want to do well, even when the situation is not ideal, are the ones who become more “attractive” to both the inside and outside. Guess what, they will move on and some of us will stay stuck because of the belief that if we do less, or not as good as we can, we will escape the situation we are in. Don’t fall for it, “everything we want is on its way, what you are experiencing now is all temporary.” Stay the course, the future is waiting for us.
Bottom line is: “do something today that your future self will appreciate”.
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