As long as I can remember I’ve been trying to answer that internal call to help others, to raise the vibration of those around me. When I was 35 I translated a passion for yoga and the benefits it had brought into my own life into a passion to teach and share that with others.
Over the 15 years I taught, every year on January 1st I realized there was an opportunity to stop talking about resolutions and start using some of that yoga juice I learned in my practice to call in change and growth without the hallmark version of resolutions.
Resolutions suck! I don’t know about you but I know that for 30+ years of my life I set resolutions on NYE. What I found was that I was making resolutions for things I wanted to do more of or less of and the moment I didn’t live up to that, the resolution died!
Let me give you an example, several years in a row I decided that while I don’t drink a ton I would not have any drinks during the week. Now fast forward to the 5th or 10th and I find myself at a lovely dinner and end up having a cocktail or glass of wine.
In my mind, as soon as I broke that resolution it was dead in the water. I had failed to accomplish what I set out to do so f*ck it! Once a resolution is broken, it was done, at least in my mind!
So I decided to take a little mindset shift and start setting intentions instead of resolutions. Same thing in theory but for me and my mental game I could view them as different things with different outcomes.
Intentions Are Golden! Five years ago in 2020 I decided to mix this up a little bit, to use the idea that if I set an intention (like I would in my practice) it would be a reminder of a goal that I was shooting for and allowed for missing and re-aligning.
In 2020 I created my “More > Less” chart and have lived on this for going on 5 years now. The concept is simple:
What do I want more of in my life that brings me to the greater good?
What do I want less of in my life that is distracting me from meeting my goals?
So this year instead of sharing this with my family and friends I am sharing it with all of you! Take it, make it your own!
Just like you would with a resolution, think about what change you are calling in to your life, now think about that in terms of what does that mean you need more of and less of. Here are a few examples from my list this year:
More: Reading by the fire with some great music in the background
Less: Laying in bed scrolling social media
More: Dinners and conversation at the dinner table with my family
Less: Eating on the couch in front of the TV because we are all too tired to engage
More: Experiences
Less: Things
OK ok you get the point, the main thing to remember is that since we are treating this differently than our old school make and break resolution, we get to interact with them differently. If you realize you are missing the goal, simply take a breath, reset, and move towards the “More” list!
Happy New Year to all Feel free to drop some More/Less goals for the year in the comments, I can’t wait hear what everybody is working on!
~S
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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