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WHY IMPROVED COMMUNICATION DOESN’T WORK
Surprisingly, most couples communicate just fine. However, they perceive what is said to them differently than what is intended, which leads to misunderstandings. To avoid misunderstandings. 1. Listen genuinely 2. Focus on feelings and most importantly 3. Take a break when conflict escalates
HOW TO STOP THE DOWNWARD MOMENTUM
Momentum in relationships can work in both directions. To change momentum you need to have change in thoughts and change in actions. Both are intertwined.
If you change your thoughts, your actions will follow and vice versa.
Accusing your spouse can be pretty easy. (“He’s the person who invests all of his energy at work!”) But both parties deserve equal credit here, Rather than zeroing in on what your partner is doing wrong speak the truth about how you may be adding to the issue as well.
DON’T BECOME WHAT YOUR PARTNER THINKS THEY WANT
This can make you look weak and pitiful and your spouse will lose respect for you. This is also destructive because you are becoming something you are not and never were. Also becoming someone that your partner thinks they want is not going to help with what they need. Most of the time your partner doesn’t know what they need.
LOOK AT YOUR TONE
Ridiculing or talking in a manner that is horrible puts your spouse on edge, which can make them shut down. So attempt to talk kindly. Certainly, your sentiments and viewpoint are significant but if you invest all your energy zeroing in on yourself, you won’t ever comprehend where your partner is coming from. So when they talk, quit contemplating what you’ll say straightaway and simply tune in.
DON’T TELL FAMILY AND FRIENDS
It’s natural to tell loved ones your problems, but when it comes to relationships, it can be destructive since they may think differently about your partner, which can affect them. It’s not difficult to start slamming your life partner inside but negative comments influence how they feel and how they act.
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