Saying no doesn’t mean, ‘I don’t love you.’ It means, ‘I want to be treated with respect.’
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Counselor Carl may sound low-key in this video, but he brings out a powerful message as he explains the critical importance of setting and enforcing boundaries to sustain healthy adult relationships.
Being unable to set healthy boundaries leaves you confused about your feelings, needs, and responsibilities, because you learned to focus on the feelings and needs of others as a child.
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Hi Thomas I have a question to you. Right now you have another article here on GMP where you tell us to be open to other about our problems and needs. https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/why-a-permanent-positive-attitude-just-might-keep-you-down-fiff/ But this can be easier said that done. I have come to realise I can no longer stand it when friends gossip about others as their way to tell me how difficult their life is. How can I express my boundaris , and still be a good friend that is open to listen to their problems? I do not want to hear evil gossip about other persons that… Read more »
I wish this had a link to Counselor Carl’s Facebook page. I would like to see his tips on setting boundaries.
Alisha, I don’t see a Facebook page, but here is his website: http://serenityonlinetherapy.com/.