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Dr. Joe Kort is a sex expert and the author of “Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi: A Guide for Women Concerned About Their Men.” He’s also a blogger and vlogger. He’s covered everything from sexual fluidity to erotic orientation to porn addiction.
In his latest vlog, Dr. Joe tackles the hot topic of straight men receiving anal sex and whether or not the anus has a sexual orientation. (Hint: it doesn’t!)
In the video’s accompanying blog post, Dr. Joe writes:
Straight men will say they want to receive anal sex, or they want to engage in anal play, but they’re ashamed to tell their girlfriends or their wives. They’re ashamed to ask their partner to explore that with them.
Why is this?
Why do you think?
Dr. Joe explains:
Sometimes, men themselves worry that—because they’re interested in anal play—it automatically means they’re gay… or perhaps even bisexual. I like to tell them: “In the state where I am a board certified sex therapist, your anus doesn’t have a sexual orientation.” That calms them down.
Hear Dr. Joe pontificate on straight men who desire to be penetrated in the video below…
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This post was originally published on Queerty and is republished here with permission.
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That’s quite a leap! Wanting anal stimulation but too embarrassed to ask your hetero partner –> being the “receiver” in same-sex relations? Hardly. This article is misleading.
Furthermore, while the anus doesn’t have a sexual orientation, the person it belongs to does. If you wanted to try a particular sexual act but were too embarrassed to ask your partner, would YOU seek out women to experiment with? Of course not. We all know that sexuality is not black and white…but it’s also not melted butter.
Your attempts to normalize desires and decrease shame are to be commended. But pushing this hyper-fluidity model is simply misguided and not helpful.